Happens all the time. I know of something only an elder at the time and the details were spread around before the JC even met. The elder was the "star witness." Elders leak more often than not, in my experience. Never, ever trust one.
Did You Ever Tell An Elder Something Confidential Only To Hear It Blabbed??
by minimus 27 Replies latest jw friends
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minimus
I knew of an elder on our body that eventually got deleted because he'd reveal confidences, deny it and then get caught lying about it again!
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sandy
I've probably told this story a thousand times on here. But too bad here it is again.
After my JC meeting, during a Sunday WT study an Elder's adult daughter made a comment and stared directly over at me. The comment hit home like you wouldn't believe.
Before I met with the Elders I was afraid because I knew for a fact one of the elders used to tell everyone's business to his wife who in turn told members that met at her home for bookstudy. I used to attend that bookstudy.
I went through the meeting anyway just to here my situation used as an example in his idiot daughter's WT comment one Sunday morning.
A couple months after not attending meetings my brother talked to another elder about me and told him I was discouraged and embarrassed b/c I felt like the congregation may know personal things about me.
The freakin' elder jumped down my bro's neck and said elder's are appointed by holy spirit and they would never betray that.
WHATEVER!!!! That MORON elder knew that the elder in question is guilty for betraying holy spirit many times in the past.
Well, I haven't been back to a meeting one time in the last 6 years with the exception of two memorials just to please my family.
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JeffT
I went to an elder with a family problem (and this was a guy I really liked and thought I could trust). A couple of weeks later there was a special needs talk, everybody in the hall knew it was us.
Didn't make that mistake again.
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ThiChi
One time, an Elder from another Hall came to me, some how knowing I was on a Judicial Committee, telling what I needed to do to the person, so as to teach him a lesson.
One wife of an elder always made certain comments that showed she was in "the know" about certain issues discussed in our meetings......
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Carmel
Every elder I've conversed with has kept my confidence 100%. But then of course I left the borg long before the "elder arrangement" existed! So I've never confided in one to my knowledge.
carmel of the "ancient of days" class
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minimus
The key is-------NEVER tell the elders anything.
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doodle-v
How embarrasing, its bad enough to have to tell every single detail in front of two or three men. But then to have it dragged out yet again in a "special needs talk" it's insane!!
"special needs talk"= lets tell the whole congregation what you did but not use any names even though everyone is going to put two and two together and figure out it was you then gossip about you-
Doodle-V
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minimus
"Marking" is another thing that's funny. The elders give a talk and everyone but the dumbest one in the congregation knows EXACTLY who's being referred to. It's embarrassing and still supposed to be on the QT------only the ones that know of the sin are supposed to stop associating with the person. Yet, if YOU continued associating with a "marked" person, you would be told to stay away from the "marked one".
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minimus
We had 1 elder that always talked to the youths in order to have them open up to him so that he could use it against them-----later. Eventually, none of the teens would talk to him and a few even told him to his face that he couldn't be trusted. He's the same guy that recently suggested I might be "bad association".