IS IT JUST ME? (page 2)

mouthy

Since being out of the Borg a little over a year now I suddenly realised how much more compassionate and caring I've become

Amen to that Ian...I have been out since 1987 When they gave me the left foot of fellowship..Wanting to kill myself-because Jehovah kicked me off the ARK -cos I didnt see HIS son come invisably in 1914..

Now I laugh at that- ( wasnt funny at the time though) I was "OUT IN THE WORLD" all by my self-( didnt know there were others out there too.)

NOW??? I find the Peace within that I never had in my life before-I may not agree with all other "beliefs"I dont go to Church> Only to speak...I have that personal relationship with MY GOD> Who I call Jesus...

((((((HUGS THE DANSK FAMILY))))

xjw_b12

Ian Good thread.

I suddenly realised how much more compassionate and caring I've become

Compassion was one of the motivating factors in helping CJ and I to exit. At a difficult time, while the jw neighbours to our right, were spreading malicious gossip and lies about us in the congregation, our non jw neighbours to our left, continued to invite us over for meals, sit out on their patio, plant vegetables in their garden, etc.

They couldn't care less what religion or not we were. We were neighbours, raising kids, and that was it.

Once we left for good, it was very refreshing to talk with people ( without preconceived misconceptions, and/or the intention of placing literature ) just for the pleasure of meeting them and enjoying their company.

And that haughty JW attitude of "serves them right, has been replaced by the desire to assist, or at least feel compassion.

CJ and I have a little joke between ourselves. Every time we meet or read of some exemplary person or people one of us will say to the other :

"They were so nice, ...... "Too bad their going to die at Armegeddon" Then we laugh at ourselves in a self deprecating sort of way, finding it hard to believe we actually used to think that way, yet relieved we no longer do.

xjw_b12 "Millions Now Living Will Never ~~Die~~ Know

wednesday

I was never a good JW anyhow. I tried to submisive and all that, but my natural personality just kept coming out and getting me into trouble. (Born to be wild) Even "worldy people"(tm) knew i was not really a JW. They were always surprised when i told them i was one. Actually , here in the Baptist belt, it is difficult to tell the jws from the baptists, they are similar.Our town is so goofy, we are "dry" and no night life at all. And all b/c of those baptists!!!!

LittleToe

No, Ian, it's not just you. However you are a good example of what it's like to suddenly leave a cult behind and start a new and positive life.
I applaud your victory

outoftheorg

No it's not just you Dansk.

I am aware of a change in myself and especially in the area of acceptance of others as they are and not being so judgemental. I am now more charitable and do donate to the "forbidden organizations".

It sadens me to to realize that I would have been a better father, in the same area of acceptance of others, as it applies to my children.

I view children now as more of a gift, rather than as a burden as I did in the cult. Trying to control their thoughts and acceptance of the cult and strictly monitoring their lives and controlling tightly, was an unneeded burden on us all. It also deprived them from social interaction and knowledge as I was as a child.

You are not alone.

Outoftheorg

wednesday

What i have done, however, is be able to accept my self and my thoughts and feelings as human . Now i see very little "satan" in anything. It feels so good to just realize that some things are good, and others not so good, and Satan has very little to do with it. Now that i don't pummel my body and force it about, i feel much better mentally. I am not looking forward to a life in the new system, i am leading a life now. Now that i don't attend 3 meetings a week during which i was shunned and told how unworthy i was, i feel much better.

I'm glad u had a life to go back to. U are one of the lucky ones. Some of us never had a previous life.

I am very happy for u, u are such an upbeat person nd i just know your whole family will see it this way eventually. Thank u for all your great posts.

Don't u just want to shout"hello human race, 'm so glad to be back"?

calamityjane

Ian, I can't add any more words, as I am 100% agreeable with what you said.

Since exiting we have become better people, and it feels GOOD!!

love

cj

P.S. to add, I have stopped being the judgmental person I use to be. It has opened my heart in many ways.

Dansk

I'd like to thank everyone for their wonderful comments here and I'm truly overcome by some of your very kind words aimed in my drection. If I may I'd like to pick up on something outoftheorg said:

I view children now as more of a gift, rather than as a burden as I did in the cult.

As much as I loved my children as a JW, to my utter shame I can recall how I used to ignore their wanting to play or have a conversation with me due to my being upstairs preparing yet another insignificant talk or assignment. The sheer waste of time I spent on those "privileges" when the REAL privileges were downstairs all the time!

Whilst I have (at least for now) lost my daughters, my two sons and I are closer than we've ever been. My older son, Karl, is now in a band (he plays the drums) and is currently out with his friends in town playing billiards. Every day we hug each other, my boys and I, and I am sooooo grateful that I have this time with them. Neither of them holds it against me for not giving them more quality time when they were kids - or for not celebrating birthdays, Christmas and the like. Indeed, they made me feel so humble after saying they never even thought about it!!

I know by the many posts each of you have made on this forum how wonderfully considerate YOU all are and I count you as my true friends. My true feelings have now really come to the fore, having once been suppressed and robotically conditioned. It truly is a wonderful feeling to be FREE and to be able to share one's feelings from the heart in the full knowledge that others will TRULY understand.

Bless you all my dear friends. I could never have got this far without you!

Love,

Ian

Maverick

You brought up a good point Dansk. As a JW I had less fellow feeling for people than I do now. Everything with that bunch is conditional. My daughter really likes the eight-fold path. Gary had some great information. And I can see how it applied to me. I am still peeling off layers of the WTS BS! The more or ME that comes through the happier I am! Maverick

Dansk

Maverick

My daughter really likes the eight-fold path.

I believe you should join her. Your journey along it would be a happy one. May your efforts be fruitful and may you recieve the happiness you deserve.

Ian

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