Send a great big G'day to an aussie visitor who needs sympathy right now

by ozziepost 29 Replies latest jw friends

  • Joyzabel
    Joyzabel

    Hello!

    I agree with Mulan " Time does help to heal you." When I first came to this board and was going through all the dizzy-can't-believe-what-I-was-learning stuff, someone said "give yourself at least 2 years". And she was about right. But I had lived all my life that Armegedon was "anytime now" that it was hard to let go of that time factor and learn to just live.

    Give yourself time to grieve. Yes it is a grieving process to give up what we lived all our lifes for. The stages of grief are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

    Look at Ozziepost & Mrs Ozziepost. They have gone on beautifully with their lives and so will you.

    Welcome to the real world. Give yourself permission to be human.

    Joy

  • Xena
    Xena

    Hello from Austin, Texas! And welcome to the International Brother/Sisterhood of EX Jehovahs Witnesses....where you can be who you want to be...believe what you want to believe...and we will still associate with you (although we might argue with you till we are blue in the face )

    Looks like you are off to a good start having Mr. & Mrs. Ozzie as friends...

    So quit lurking and come out and play with us

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    Finding the real "truth" about the borg, is like living in a house with a beautiful picture window, with a view to die for. Here is my story:

    One day, as you walk past, you notice what appears to be a small smudge on the glass, and you try to clean it off, but the smudge seems to grow and the view gradually becomes distorted. This is upsetting to you, because you can't quite see the view from the window like before. You miss it, but you still manage to live with it the way it is. You still can picture in your mind "the perfect view" from the window.

    As time goes by, you try to not look out the window, because it only brings you sadness. You have this beautiful large window, and yet, it has become useless. It makes you sad. You don't think you can ever replace it. Your wife and children don't understand, but because this has affected you so greatly, out of love, your wife decides to cover up the window and that makes the room dark and gloomy. Not even extra lamps in the room changes that gloomy, forboding feeling. Everyone in the family suffers. No one knows what to do.

    Then one day, you wake up feeling quite refreshed and you feel like you could do anything--even replace the entire window. You feel like living and you are tired of the dark and gloom. You aren't a carpenter by trade, but you begin to learn by visiting a friend who replaced his window some time ago. (At the time, you thought it strange that he would replace a window with such a great view---now, in an odd way, you are beginning to figure it out.) Your friend is very willing to help you, share his knowlege and his tools and even his physical strength. You had not known such love and compassion ever before.

    Your wife says the window must be quite dirty because it's been covered over with dark curtains for a long time. Not only is it dirty, but it is down-right ugly. But you fearlessly take them down. Without hesitation, you break away the distorted glass and suddenly, you are looking out at the real world. It is even more beautiful than what you used to see from your picture window. You are amazingly surprized. Your family gathers around and says it is a maricle for sure. The breeze comes in and it just feels right.

    After awhile, you realize in time that you still need to have glass in the window, to protect you from the elements and make your home comfortable. So you insert a brand new piece of glass. This time, the view is not distorted and you can finally see clearly.

    (This is my story, and I'm sticking to it. Just the writer in me I guess.

    /<

  • Celtic
    Celtic

    Yol from Cornwall UK on a rather damp and breezy day.

    Hmmmmmm if you ever need a mate to write to, PM me anytime, was born in, 3rd gen, left df'ed April 95. Been to hell and back on vacation several times. My thoughts and prayers, good vibes etc, sending your way.

    My kindest regards.

    Mark

  • Scully
    Scully

    Welcome!

    You're among friends here. Feel free to join in sometime!

    Even if you only read the posts here, I hope what you find is that you really aren't as "alone" as the WTS wants you to feel. I've never been DF'd but I can't imagine how painful it would be to know that unless I went back to The Truth? that some of the people I love the most would never have anything to do with me again. Just know that you can be true to yourself and be happy without crawling back to the organization.

    Love, Scully

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    Welcome, Aussie lurker. If it makes you feel any better, this Canadian is coming out of a too-long winter, spring is supposed to be here, and it SNOWED last night. Talk about depressing! Sentinel, that window story is a keeper! Can I copy it for my newbies thread?

  • rekless
    rekless

    http://www.online-literature.com/orwell/animalfarm/ go to this link read all the chapters as you read apply the story to the watch Tower Bible and tract Society. Think, my friend, how many prophocies have the Faithful and descreet slave ever made that came true.? If someone can hot up the link i'd appreciate it. thanks dan

  • talesin
    talesin

    Welcome !

    You are not alone. I am 3rd generation on one side, 4th on the other. There is life after the Tower. I know that right now, life may seem hopeless, but this is a temporary feeling. Whatever the cost, your freedom is worth it !!

    Stick around, read some posts, join in if you feel comfortable.

    We are here for you.

    {{{{{hugs}}}}}

    from one who knows,

    talesin

  • happehanna
    happehanna

    Hi..You will be okay, better than ok, hard to believe but true. Maybe not today, but you will be soon.

    Keep reading stuff on this site and others like it and you will heal. Others might try to pick at your healing wounds but try not to let them.

    PS I am a third generation , daughter of an elder and ex wife of an elder

  • shotgun
    shotgun

    Gday mate.....

    I think we should all rally together and buy me a ticket so I can go to Sydney and buy this bloke a beer...huh...what do you think...silence eh...just a thought..forget it.

    Welcome to the forum

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