((((Chris))))
I believe I know what you are referring to.
No one can predict how others will interpret our words. It's why I think we should ever assume the best motives from each other until proven otherwise. I am certain your motives were only kind. Also we cannot control others' decisions about our words; you already know this well. There is great consolation there--so please don't overlook it.
Whenever I put my foot in my mouth (or think I have done so), I remember that public humility can be a very good thing for me, even though I hate it so!
Secondly, if I would forgive anyone else who has done whatever I accuse myself of doing, I can practise forgiving myself for whatever sin or faux pas (real or imagined). Private humility of a sort, I guess.
So, welcome (back?) to the real world (again). We all love you here, warts and all, cuz heck, we all got warts here, Chris... (And some of us got warts on our warts. )
A favor: I honestly hope you will shore me up when I am feeling humbled here because I value your words; more than that, I value you.
bebu