Very, Very Torn Relationship

by tmc18 18 Replies latest social relationships

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart
    I must always be a the wrong congregation at the wrong time, or somethin

    Just remember, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's a duck. I used to think the same thing but finally realized that it's the organization that's corrupt, not all of the people. The way the congregations behave comes down from Brooklyn and those who really, sincerely want to do the right thing are getting fewer and fewer. Don't chase a dream -- settle your own reality first.

    Nina

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu
    No one has seemed really committed to it, around me that it, and have been twisted or acted shady in some kind of way. Even my fiance's family is falling out of it. His older brother and sister are out as well. When I lived in Colorado, even a nice Elder left his wife for an eighteen year old girl IN the congregation. They just didn't give a crap anymore, I guess.

    This sounds horribly messy. It sounds like you're getting nothing but signs that this is NOT the true religion, but you're still telling yourself that it is. Do you really want your family to become part of this mess?

    Let me ask you some questions, if you were to go back to the "truth", would you cease all communication with your son if he was disfellowshipped for smoking? Would you actually allow yourself to be that cruel? What if he was disfellowshipped for pre-marital sex? You've already gone down that path, do you think it would be right to cease communication with your son if he were to do the same?

    Please educate yourself on this religion before you dive back into it. They are the only ones saying that they are the one true religion. They told you that through the pages of the Watchtower. If you didn't hear it through the Watchtower, you heard it from someone who did. I'll tell you something, I'm a rocket scientist. Now, do you have any proof that I'm a rocket scientist? You haven't seen me working at NASA, and you haven't even met me. All you're going on is my word. It's very much the same with the Watchtower Society. They're a self-proclaimed channel to God, just like I'm a self-proclaimed Rocket Scientist.

    Feel free to visit www.freeminds.org to get a better understaning of how this religion works.

    Also, if I were you, I wouldn't raise my child in the "truth". I lost my childhood, and I'll never be able to re-experience it.

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    I can tell from your post that you are being tossed about and are really emotional about your life circumstances.

    The bottom line, no matter what, is to weigh the pro's and con's of a decision. As far as any religious belief system, that is your personal choice. Your child deserves to be raised with love and caring, and that can be accomplished without marital ties or becoming baptized in a religion you are obviously having doubts about. You can do this, and your child can still have a relationship with the father.

    No one here is going to give you the go ahead to get involved with the JW's, because we have discovered for ourselves, through much pain and suffering emotionally that this belief system takes away "self" and the rules and regulations are from a group of people, not from "god". Some folks like to have their life laid out on a platter, so they know what to do with every single area of their life, down to the most private of matters, and they are quite happy doing that. The thing is, if you ever simply want to "leave", you are labeled and shunned, and you end up losing friends and family. That's like blackmail. Certainly not the love and compassion we should be showing each other. Some choices cost more than others. You must weight the cost on this one.

    Reading the fine print in life does save us heartache; however, it is through our own journey of experiences that we truly learn and ultimately find our way.

    I wish you the best in whatever choice you make.

    /<

  • tmc18
    tmc18

    Thank you again for all of your comments. I just had a pretty heartbreaking argument about what he actually wants to do and what I want to do about this relationship 'religious wise'. He basically say that he doesn't know, so I ended the engagement.

  • tmc18
    tmc18

    Spelling correction! "He basically SAYS that he doesn't...

  • Flash
    Flash
    so I ended the engagement.

    I agree with your decision. If things improve later you can reconsider.

  • bebu
    bebu

    ((((hug))))

    It's gotta be hard. I'm truly sorry for that.

    I am convinced, though, that you won't regret taking your time and being careful in all of life's important matters. Your foundations will be so much stronger!

    Take care, and hope you will stick around on the board. (And please DO read the Freeminds.org site--esp. the articles about the UN...)

    bebu

    PS: What a cute little baby!!!!

  • Shutterbug
    Shutterbug

    Welcome to the board. There is a tremondous amount of help on this board, and since you're from Texas there is a good chance there is some personel emotional help available. May I respectfully suggest you take cruzanheart up on her offer if you live in the DFW area ?? Posters on this board are scattered all over Texas, but there are a number of folks in the DFW area who can give some pratical advice.

    Again, welcome to the board. Bug

  • tmc18
    tmc18

    Great-Now he wants to get back together, and "read the Bible every now and then".

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