"Sharing" a piece of myself - part 4

by Tallyman 30 Replies latest jw friends

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  Farkel

  Greetings Tom,

  Hang in there buddy. You're not alone. I've been through some pretty tough times myself, but what we've gone through is entirely different. There's a lot of support in here for you, as you can already see.

  With regards to COMF: I know the guy. I've spoken to him a number of times, we know where each other lives, just like you and I do. He's a kewl guy. Since I know him on a more personal level that you and since I also like and respect him, and since I also know he can get a bit owly at times, I would suggest that you take what he said with a grain of salt. Of course I can't speak for him, and don't presume to, but he's a decent man with no agenda. What you see is what you get. I'd rather have a friend like that (even if I might get my feelings hurt from time-to-time) than a hypocrite for a friend who always leaves me wondering where I really stand. COMF is no hypocrite from my experience with him. By the way, I'm certain I've pissed off ex-JWs that I care about, too. Shit happens. We're still friends, though.

  Keep your chin up. There is much Kult work yet to do!

  Farkel
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  BoozeRunner

  Hi Tom.... all I can add is WOWWWW!!!
  You indeed have a lot of courage. {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} my brother.

  Boozy
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  unclebruce

  Thanks Tom.

  unclebruce

  PS: Your statement not to trust the police or media is sound (It's best to not have ourselves in a position where we need to trust anyone) As for women putting up with abuse I'd say leave after the first punch and don't look back. My father said a lot of things but the only advice I remmember was: "you don't have to accept shit from anyone."
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  Seeker

  Tally,

  We've tangled in the past, and I don't much care for your tone most of the time. But that's ok, you probably don't care for my tone. What's the difference?

  But I was moved by your story, and I feel for you very strongly. I remember when this happened, and although I was never in the loop that knew the details at the time, I knew one thing: A man is innocent until proven guilty, and I always, always try to remember that. In your case, I assumed I didn't have the whole story, and I withheld judgment. When Farkel then began assuring us on H2O that there was more to the story, and that you would be exonerated, I assumed that to be the case and that you were innocent. That is how it turned out.

  I am sorry you carry this burden with you. Again, though we do not see eye to eye on many things, we are on the same side, with the same fight, shoulder to shoulder. You're a good man, Tom Talley.

  {{{{{Tom}}}}}}
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  Cautious

  Hi Tom, I've just finished reading all 4 parts of your sharing, and I agree with BoozeRunner ... Wowww! Where did all your courage and strength come from with a family like that?

  ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
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  DannyBear

  Tally,

  If you can...move outa that nest of family viper's. Sounds like your sister's may be cause for further violence. As the ole Judge R used to say 'go west young man'.

  I know you feel better (so do I) after getting that off your chest. At the very least, it should put all the imagination and speculation to rest..You Know.

  Your writing indicates a strong will and lots of courage. More power to you, you obviously decided taking the 'poor me' attitude was no answer.

  The future must look like a 'paradise' compared to what you have just been through!

  Enjoy the rest of your life.

  Danny
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  Thirdson

  Hey Tally,

  I don't think I have said much about your case or even posted to you before. Thanks for sharing and for having the guts to pour your heart out like this. I read all 4 posts, I hope it helps you and I appreciate you writing this and setting things straight.

  I know things are hard and some things won't change for a long time but things can only get better from now on.

  Good luck to you, and keep fighting!

  Thirdson

  'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing'
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  AGuest

  Dearest Tom... may you have peace!

  I know that MANY here do not believe my 'anointing' or commission... perhaps, including you. Be that as it may, my Lord has directed me to tell you that he has ALREADY answered your question as to whether you have been forgiven or not. You have. For like my Father, HE, too... knows the HEART of a man.

  That is why, in ancient, Israel, a concession was made for those who unwittingly took another's life. The cities of refuge. Such ones could RUN there... and remain... until the death of the high priest. My Lord has offered himself to you as your 'high priest'... and he will NEVER die. Thus, his arms... and his kingdom... are your 'city of refuge'. All you need do is exercise faith... and RUN. You CAN 'get there'.

  Am I saying that you have to 'join up' with me? No, for truly, there is nothing TO join. In your heart, you have already accepted him as your 'personal' Lord and savior... but he is requiring nothing more of you this time. His 'gift' of forgiveness... is FREE. If you WISH to 'repay' him, however, he asks only three things in return: that you EXERCISE faith in that forgiveness in that you:

  1. 'Go away and sin no more'... and;

  2. RELEASE any who sin against YOU... just as he has released you.

  That's it... that's all.

  Now, you (and some others) might not consider that to be 'free'. You may see a 'cost' in doing that. However, I do not. For all he is ASKING you to do... is what you 'OUGHT to be doing'... anyway.

  He HAS forgiven you, Tom. As has my Father. I promise you... and I am speaking truth to you. You, now, must EXERCISE faith in that forgiveness. Again, you can DO that... by believing it... and forgiving others... WHATEVER their 'trespasses'.

  I bid you the utmost of peace, and I am...

  Your servant and a slave of Christ,

  SJ
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  Roamingfeline

  Tallyman,

  I admire you no end. YOu are courageous, you took action when there was no other action left to take 'cept to give your own life. I don't think you should have to feel guilty at all, or give up your life so another can feel powerful in their insanity. It was self-defense, and you should try to find a way to forgive yourself.

  (((((((((((((((((((Tom)))))))))))))))))))))))

  We're here for you, and we care.

  RCat
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  Cowboy

  Tallyman,
  My deepest sympathies to you.I can't imagine how much you've endured.I know it's hard to imagine,but time will ease the pain.