i recently got this letter from my mother, i thought i would share it to help see how this saga continues. my parents are both regular pioneering as we speak. have seen their grandchildren for about an hour in the last six months. what more can i say, please read.
6-14-01
dear son,
while i wish you happiness, i am having health problems now from your decision to be at odds with jehovah's organization, and when you said you didn't feel it was neccessary to talk to jehovah everyday once a week would be enough. that really hurt. becaues i remember when you loved to talk to jehovah everyday. he is so kind and helps so much. i would never want to live a day without telling him how much i appreciate the things he does for us each day to just help us live and breath. i will always love you "unconditionally" but i truly feel you have been decieved by apostates and i feel when they are done using you, they will hurt you beyond description. the pain of, or fear of, that, is causing me so much stress, i am having headaches and pains in my stomach. i feel you have lost the common sense you used to have and are driven by a desire to be somebody, which will never happen in the world you have chosen to live in. when you build your life around negative stories as horrible as child abuse there's never anything to laugh about any more. there's no joy or feelings of happy times. "happy are those conscious of their spiritual need." if you don't feel a need to be with jehovah there will be no real happiness, it will only be a mirage that will fade when you reach for it and need it most. i feel someday you will wish you had never taken this course. when that day comes, me, your father, and sister will be there with open arms. i don't always listen to what people say. i just watch their eyes. it's hard for eyes to not show the truth. i didn't see peace and happiness in you, your son or daughters eyes, only in your wife, i feel she see's the mirage and someday she will find those new friends are saying things behind her back that really hurts. this is what i feel. anyway, right now, for my health's sake, i have to not hear about child abuse and your feelings about the organization. it hurts to much and i have to find a way to survive. i will always love you.
mom
well what can i say, it appears now i am killing my mother. as i read these words it made me feel sad. sad for my parents who in the twilight of their lives spend all their time offering literature and missing so much of life. who make themselves sick worrying about me their son. a son who has never asked them for a dime, never been in trouble, married for 18 years with two wonderful children. they have so much, yet it means nothing to them due to wt dogma. my children deserve better, are there any grandparents looking for some nice grandchildren to adopt? you know, to visit with, share your life with, and let them know they are special. my children have never known this from their jw grandparents. the wt it seems takes everything and gives little in return.
why did i post this? to help others see what happens when you do what is morally and ethically right and how you are treated, even by your own mother. as far as how to respond to the letter i have nothing to offer, how can you answer reasoning such as this? i am certainly open to suggestons.