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ohiocowboy

Hello, and welcome to the forum!!!

Please be patient with your boyfriend, he is going through a very traumatic time now. I think that a lot of people on this site can relate to the feelings that your boyfriend is going through. I have been in relationships in the past, where they couldn't deal with the issue, and couldn't understand my feelings. My current relationship has lasted over 2 years, and this person has been very understanding, and because of this understanding and support, it has allowed me to grow, and my mindset that I once had with being involved with the organization, has a far less impact on my life. It takes time for people to heal, but if a person is patient, they will sure to be rewarded. It is hard to understand the situation that your boyfriend is going through, as you were not a JW, so maybe this site will give you some insights, and you will see proof of the healing process of those who left the org. and have gotten on with their lives. You have a chance for a wonderful relationship, as it sounds like you both really care for each other. As others have mentioned, maybe your boyfriend can also join this site, but he will have to do it in his own time if he does not feel comfortable about it yet. I wish you the best, and I think with patience, you will have a really nice relationship!!

Candles of Light

ohiocowboy,

All I can say is kindness, helpfullness and love abounds here.

Thanks,

Candles

cyber-sista

Aloha Candles...

Your boy friend needs to help unravel some of what he has been twisted up in so that he can heal. Does he want to go back to the WT? If so this will be a very difficult thing for your relationship. If he has made up his mind that he is over and done with it he needs to get some knowledge and support so he can transition himself out of the Borg programmed thinking that is interferring with his life and relationships. Maybe you can help him get some help, but he has to make up his mind that this is the kind of help he wants first. I would suggest you learn as much as you can and present it to him in a reasonable manner. It is very painful and confusing when you first leave the Org. (Watchtower Organization)

the best to you, love cybs

xjw_b12

Candles ....

We can help.

codeblue

Hi and welcome to the board!!!

You are doing the right thing by researching the beliefs of your husband. I was raised as a JW and we have lived a life that is very different than most churches. I am not df'd like your husband, but he does need a lot of love and concern and patience right now. Like others have said, try to get him to sign on this board, he will find others in his situation that can help him progress thru the pain of what he is going thru.

Hope you enjoy your research here!

Codeblue

Joker10

I disagree with you about the love and kindness, Candles.

Candles of Light

Cybs,

Thank you for your comments, Johnny has so much hate over this Church. I don?t understand it. Why he complains about not being able to go to College, I will never understand. He?s self taught in everything.

Candles

Frannie Banannie

(((Candles))) You sound like such a caring person, chere. I'm sure that you, yourself, will also like this forum. There are wonderful personalities here, very helpful and caring, fun-loving ppl to encourage both you and you b/friend. He's lucky he's got you, hon.

Here's two very important links to threads that will open your b/friend's eyes and help you to better understand the trauma he's going through and what he's undergone already.....I hope yall find them very helpful and encouraging, chere.

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/16/57203/1.ashx Dealing with the Psych Issues of Leaving Restrictive Religious Cult

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/58215/863175/post.ashx#863175 Newbies, Everything You Want to Know But Were Afraid to Ask by jgnat

Frannie B

Joker10

So he didnt go to college. He still can. The religion can't stop you from going to college. Tell him to get real help.

Candles of Light

Joker10,

I came here for help. Your "Dumb Ass" comment's are not needed here. Johnny is disabled. A gunshot in his face. His mind is there, but the rest is day to day. Take your comments and print them out, then stick the paper up your ass.

Candles.......................................................

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