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by Candles of Light 34 Replies latest jw friends

  • Corvin
    Corvin

    Candles, you have come to the right place for support and insight. You may find some answers neither of you ever considered.

    by boyfriend has been one for most of his life. He is now kicked out of the Church. I have to deal with his pain over the experiences he tells me about in regard to his association with this Church and I don't know how to help him.

    I was expelled from the religion 14 years ago, and all that time, I struggled with everything and while I was no longer a member, I always had the notion that I could bring my life into harmony with the organization and once again return. During that time, I even rationalized and defended the organization and held to so many of their policies. Those policies far over-reached into every aspect of my life. What insanity!

    The guilt and shame, oh my god; the pain is so great that you can never grieve it to a completion and move on without some real answers.

    Once I learned the truth about the organization of Jehovah's Witnesses, I was suddenly let off the hook. I was truly free. Stick around and learn the truth about what they Jehovah's Witnesses call "the truth". You can help your bf off the hook too. I ran into a long lost love who I had not seen since we were teens. She too had been expelled and had so many reservations about returning. We stood talking for hours in the parking lot of a Radio Shack and when some simple things were explained to her, she too suddenly felt liberated and off the hook, as it were, for the first time in many years.

    Thanks for stopping by, and let us be of help to you and your bf.

    Kind Regards,

    Corvin

  • ohiocowboy
    ohiocowboy

    Candles, Please realize that with any forum, there will be the occasional person who is not nice. It is few and far between though. We are here for a reason, and that is to get encouragement, insight, understanding, support, and even to have some fun. Please do not let what one person says affect your joining us! You are very welcome here, and you will find that the largest majority of us are decent, caring, and loving individuals who really want to help!

  • Candles of Light
    Candles of Light

    OK Cowboy,

    That guy pissed me off. All I want is help.

    Candles

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    Looks like you'd make a terrific "forum assistant", Candles Cause, you sure know how to take a serious "byte" outta someone's butt, eh?

    Seriously, tho, most of the ppl here are VERY caring, supportive and encouraging. There's always a bad "apple" or two, as in any public arena. Don't let it discourage you in any way, chere.

    Frannie B

  • Corvin
    Corvin
    Take your comments and print them out, then stick the paper up your ass.

    See Candles! You are new here and already you are taking the lead in dispensing really good advice to those who need it the most. Good for you! You are going to like it here.

    Warm Regards,

    Corvin

  • calamityjane
    calamityjane

    Welcome Candles, please encourage your boyfriend to visit us, he'll find the support he so desperately needs right now.

    cj

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie
    See Candles! You are new here and already you are taking the lead in dispensing really good advice to those who need it the most. Good for you! You are going to like it here.

    LOL, Corvin! Very astute observation! I'm wiping coffee off my dripping monitor screen over her comments right now...heh

    Frannie B

  • Candles of Light
    Candles of Light

    Corvin,

    I cannot change who I am. My name is Juanita. I am not espanic. I love Johnny and I hope he will get over his pain.

    The Best,

    Juani

  • bebu
    bebu

    I think Joker10 wants you to get real help from JW elders.

    Believe me, the elders' general inability to help anyone at all is often instrumental in driving people out of the Watchtower organization, and very likely elders were involved in the trials your boyfriend is going thru now.

    Some of the posters here ARE bonefied counselors, anyway. And many used to counsel as elders.

    But Candles, I do hope you are checking out the thread I gave you. It's to joker10's chagrin that he can't change any of that information, or keep it away from the public--that's why he tries to intercept you.

    bebu

  • lovinlife
    lovinlife

    Candles...welcome. So glad you found us! I have been helped immensely here...he will too! We look forward to meeting him here!

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