REPOST: For mothers who have lost a child

Lady Lee

One who are mother's but never had the chance to hold their child are those who have lost a child. Some because they chose to give their child up for adoption. Others because of miscarriage or stillbirth. And some because they opted for abortions.

You are still mother's. Many people forget your status. Many people don't want to remember. Perhaps some people don't know.

I am very lucky. I got to watch my children grow up. But I almost lost one by miscarriage. If I had lost her I would not be any less her mother.

My heart goes out to you today. I don't know who you are. But please find a way to celebrate this part of you - Motherhood.

franklin J

I cannot imagine anything worse than losing a child.

My grandparents lost 3 children.

After having 2 healthy kids, my wife and I had 2 miscarriages; each at 3 months. It was crushing for her and doctors warned us not to try again. We did and now have our third ( 4 years old). Her middle name is Regale, which is Italian for "gift". As a guy, I was not as emotionally impacted by the miscarriages

My wifes sister just lost the battle to breast cancer. She was my age. Her mother is devastated.

Lady Lee

(((Franklin and family)))

My mother lost one and my grandmother lost 6 either as miscarriages or shortly after birth and one more when she was 11 yrs old.

The hole in the heart I think will always be there

LyinEyes

How very sweet and caring of you to post that Lady Lee, you truly are someone who always thinks of other people....

I am sorry about the miscarriages Franklin , that is really sad. I bet that little girl of yours is really something special .

I have never lost a child but I came close , with my last baby, I was told that he would not live once he was born, he may take a breath but that would be all.

The doctors told me to make funeral arrangements, and to choose a name for him. I just could not accept that this would happen. I was truly in denial . To make a very long story short, my son did survive although for the first three years it was touch and go.

Me and my Chance,( now 9) actually went thru PTSD, over the whole ordeal, about the time he was 3 yrs old , when all the surgeries were over and he was out of the woods. That is when I just had an emotional meltdown, over all the things that went on in those first 3 yrs. I guess I didnt give myself time to reflect on things, and when he was going to be ok, I allowed myself to really think how close I came to losing him.

I can only imagine the pain I felt is a drop in the bucket to what some mothers have had to endure. I can not imagine what my mental state would have been , if things would have went the way doctors said they would.

My heart truly goes out to you mother's who have lost their children,,,,,,I just can't think of words to express my thoughts to you ......

ApagaLaLuz

Me and my Chance,( now 9) actually went thru PTSD, over the whole ordeal, about the time he was 3 yrs old , when all the surgeries were over and he was out of the woods.

I'm soooo glad it all was okay for ya!! It's one of the greatest tragedies when children's lives are cut short

Puternut

Good post Lady Lee,

Happy upcoming mothersday to all mothers.

Puternut

(fathers miss their unborn child too)

ApagaLaLuz

ahhhh, is that a sensitive side I see coming out of your puter?

You are right, so do brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles and grandparents. Maybe we should start another thread for ANYONE who has ever lost a child.

this one's for the mums though *muah*

Lady Lee

Dede

I would imagine that during those three very long years you were so busy just trying to cope one day to the next that there wasn't a whole lot of time to deal with the feelings. You're just going from one crisis to the next. It doesn't surprise me that the PTSD didn't kick in until after it was over.

Puternut

Next month we can start one for the dads just before Father's Day. You are so right - they experience the loss too and have their grieving as well

Mulan

My wifes sister just lost the battle to breast cancer. She was my age.

I understand this all too well. My best friend, my cousin, lost her battle with breast cancer almost 3 years ago. Your wife is at risk. MAKE her get yearly mammograms. My doctor told me sisters and maternal cousins are very much at risk for the breast cancer gene if one of them has gotten the cancer. My cousin was fraternal, but I still do the mammograms. It's a horrible disease and enough to make you really wake up.

I think my cousin's sons are feeling very sad this week.

Sunnygal41

{{{{{Lee}}}}} I was just talking about this with someone else privately who is grieving the loss of his children.........then I find this thread! I have the biggest lump in my throat and tears in my eyes.........I miscarried 5 years ago......the only time I've ever been pregnant......I was soooo excited.........even had names picked out..............my mom was crocheting a blanket, had bought a highchair...........her oldest daughter was going to finally have a child of her own you see.................then, suddenly, there was blood, no more heartbeat...................

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