My JW sis

by lilacia 13 Replies latest jw experiences

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  jgnat

  lilacia, you know what your sister is losing out on, and it is big. You have much warmth and natural sisterly care that she will never get to know. No doubt she feels the same about you (since all JW's know that people in the World are terribly unhappy and lonely), and it is unfortunate she felt the need to "rub it in" when she called.

  You might benefit from having a little personal funeral (kind of like the Jewish prayer for the dead) over the loss of your sister, have a proper grief session, and let her go in your mind.

  If the WTS ever rejects her, though, you can be ready to help her pick up the pieces of her life.
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  Doubtfully Yours

  (((Lilacia))), I'm sorry you're feeling this way.

  Still inside and somewhat perceived to be one of them by many, I can tell you that your sister's treatment towards you is the typical JW behavior with anyone, regardless if they're blood or not, that's not inside their click.

  After so many hours of meetings a week, plus assemblies, and all other gatherings among them being fed that everybody else is a goner except for them when God's day of destruction comes, they make it a point to detach emotionally from anyone that's not a JW as to not feel anything for them when that day comes.

  Just look at them, I mean the ones that really into it, how they deal with anybody else that's not a JW; in a very mechanical, formalistic sort of way. It's so weird!!!

  Also, another thing that comes into play is this hyper-sensitive persecution complex that gets in the way or them interacting in a normal way with anybody else.

  Awwwwwww, but they claim that they're the most loving, giving people in the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Hey, who knows, now that she'll be a mother, she'll look at the world differently and be forced to interact with other members of society; and then she may come around in a more welcoming way towards you and your family.

  I hope you pour all your love, thoughts and energy into those that appreciate it and that in turn give the same back to you.

  DY
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  Nina

  One day, and I know it may be hard to believe now, you may be grateful for the distance between your JW sister and yourself. You will be spared the details of all the degrading, disenchanting experiences that she and her family will go through as they try to bring up that child "in the discipline and mental regulating of Jehovah".

  Sometimes it's better not to know.

  Sometimes it's the only way to survive.

  Nina
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  lilacia

  I just wanted to thank you all for each post. My heart will always be full of love for my sister and it does not depend on her beliefs. My love is true and deep and unlike a JW, does not depend on how someone tells me I have to treat another person. For those of the JWs out there that DO read these posts; it DOES matter how you treat the "unbelievers". It does matter when you ignore or look the other way. How? It makes us more aware of the unrelenting, pouding of what you need to believe and how you should perceive just about anything in your life. Want to wear slacks to the "meeting" ladies? (doesn't the word meeting sound creepy in it's own right?), NO..a woman must wear a skirt or dress. Want to discuss anything "uplifting" other then relegated from the governing body? That is a NO NO. You MUST only discuss the publications. I would not want to "stumble" another sister by sharing a recipe or *gasp* discuss any other music other then the dull, errrr uplifting Kingdom Songs!! Sorry..I should have warned of a Kingdom rant at the start of this post. We now resume to the Thursday night, preach until you are persecuted, teachings.

  The bottom line, is that I appreciate the joy of everyday life. I adore nature and respect animals. More important, I love people. I care about the people in my life. I want people who enter my life to feel important. I do not think that any creator of ours would actually be happy to know that in his honor, people would be made to feel less than or shunned. I am so glad that I did NOT buy into the "stay away from computers or internet" bs that the early publications used to preach. I am proud that I actually went to college and "invested" in this system of things, because it has enabled me to get a better job and feed and clothe my children. If only the governing body would have warned us of pet rocks or chia pets or worse yet, true laughter that brings on wrinkles as you age!