They just dont get it do they?.. (page 2)

razorMind

I'm so sorry about what you are going through.

My parents, too, just don't "get it". I "drifted away" but we have never actually verbalized about my real feelings about the WT. (I'm waiting for that time to come one day, both dreading AND anticipating it...go figure) I think they have just heard snippets here and there from my siblings.

It just gets harder and harder to be around them. Like someone mentioned, I now have "the power of knowledge" and am letting it take me forward, while they are so....MIRED and SET in misery, criticism, distrust, fear, and ignorance. But they remain convinced that THEY are among "the happiest people on earth". I cannot have a decent conversation anymore with them--sometimes I get a vibe that my father resents my conversations now that I can actually speak of new things (not even religious subjects, but things I know he likes and is interested in) that I learn. Evidently "exchanges of ideas" are only permissable between him and another "brother" or "sister".....

There really is no going back. Going "home" is like being on the Moon, alone. I literally don't have a relationship with either of them. I view them now just as many of you who have posted do.

outbutnotdown

Flower,

It sucks that you are going through that, but believe it or not it could be worse. I think there may be hope for your family since they are actually having something to do with you.

I can't say the same for mine.... (and I feel for them a lot more than it bothers me)... but my brother moved to another house and changed his number and told my mother to not tell me where he lives. All this because in our last conversation, (1 1/2 yrs. ago), I told him that I believe that it is not the truth....... but that I still managed to learn good things from it. Since then every member of my family has refused to answer the phone even.

I would be lying if I said it doesn't hurt, but can you imagine their mindset to do those things to themselves, never mind me?

Anyway, the best thing we can do is stay away and stay happy........ those two seem to go hand in hand.

Brad

Sentinel

Oh Flower! Emotional blackmail is the worse kind. It seems to come natural for control groups like JW's. It's a power-play. How sad.

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Sassy

ahhh Flower.. it is sad. They are so engrained that if one rejects being a witness....rejects wanting to come back they might have something contagious and it is to be feared above all else. How sad..

kls

AW Flower what can i say ,i am so sorry and when i hear the hurt this cult causes i just want to walk outside and scream . : (

flower

Its good to be able to vent about it with folks who understand anyway...THANKS!

mouthy

I am so glad at least they make a fuss of Jay!!! It is their loss that your "off limits"Your such a sweetie .( except when you use that naughty word.) like fudge LOL.

Flower you have come such a long way.... Do you remember how hurt you were & angry when you first posted. I loved you from the get go....

In time I hope they will see the light & know what a great Mum & family gal they are missing out on....

Hang in there love remember it aint over till the fat lady sings, I am still taking singing lessons (((((((HUG))))))

XQsThaiPoes

I don't think this is mind control. I think it is status. Having a family with DFed people is like having a dusty Rolls Royce with mis matched wheels to some JWs. Flower they are hurt because you are not "supporting" them. My father is a JW and wants to be an elder again. He is Irate that my sister (unbaptized), mom and I won't dance around him like trained seals even though we are all in good standing. If active baptized JWs get treated in similar ways by their families as you a DFed person what does that tell you? It is not the mind control or the watchtower 's fault. I think the DFing idea is acceptable, but the system is broken and negligent.

I also think the large problem is JW metaphysical materialism, and their "storing treasures in heaven". While many are the spiritual equivalent of industrialist, athletes and thespians many more are pimps, drug lords and mobsters. All have gained but many have done so via illicit means.

Golf

Flower, in short, I don't concern myself with people who don't put food on my table, that includes my family.

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scotsman

Flower,

It is bizarre how they just don't get it. I recently looked after my mother while she was ill and although she was very appreciative, saying I did a better job of it than my siblings, she still told me I'd die at Armageddon. I told her that at least she'd be cared for by me until then. And we laughed.

They just dont get it do they?..

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