Maya
While my exit was short and sharp, I wouldn't advocate it for everyone. Maybe you've forgotten what it's like on Planet Witness.
Which Way Did You Choose To Leave The Organization?
by minimus 53 Replies latest jw friends
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GenericMan
Soon I will try to fade away, but theres strong chace that I my disassociate myself.
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Maya
No, Scotsman.........I have NOT forgotten............
and I never will......good God I never will....................
But there DOES come a point when everyone is responsible for his or her own actions.......
And if anyone CHOOSES, that's right....CHOOSES to be a coward and not face up to what they TRULY believe...........well,,,,,then.........
I have no sympathy............
Again I say..........If you DO NOT stand up for yourself.........
then who do you think WILL???..........
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minimus
Fading seems to be best.......
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Doubtfully Yours
Doing the slow as we speak.
DY
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minimus
Probably, the Society will go after all of us that have gone in the "Witness Protection Program". They'll HAVE to make a stand against faders sooner or later.
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Corvin
I was df'd 14 years ago, for smoking cigs. At the time I wanted to be df'd, but thought I would eventually return. At the committee meeting, the elders were actually looking for an excuse to be lenient with me and asked if I intended to quit smoking anytime soon. I told them "no", I had not intention of quitting any time soon. I left them no alternative.
13 years later, I am on the verge of reinstatement when I begin seriously questioning the things about the organization. The PO in my congregation told me outside the Kingdom Hall one Sunday that all I had to do was quit smoking and I could expect to be reinstated in a couple or three months. I was astonished. Just like that. Wow. I had not been to the KH in yearrrrrs, and I could just get reinstated like that?After I had suffered for nearly 14 years, anguished and trying to resolve my issues and bring my life into harmony with "the arrangement" I saw the veil lifted from this elder's face for just instant. That was all it took to make my stomach turn. It bothered me, so I started making sure of all things. I realized that not only could I not ever bring my life into harmony with the organization's arrangement of things, but I realized that nobody ever could, and I never wanted to be that arrogant to pretend I could.
Corvin
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Sunnygal41
Had a mid-life crisis, and had a serious problem with a sister at the Hall, who accused me of slandering her, basically. So, that just gave me a good reason to stop going to meetings. Within two years, I was DF'd and separated, then in another 6 months, I was divorced. Never been back to the Hall, don't wanna go back. When I go visit my mom, I may go to ONE meeting with her, just for haha's and to be respectful of mom, since she still talks to me even tho I'm DF'd. I'll probably sit there and barely be able to keep my mouth shut, either from laughing or wanting to tell them what I'VE learned since my freedom!!!
Terri
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Sunnygal41
But there DOES come a point when everyone is responsible for his or her own actions.......
That's right, Maya. We are EACH responsible for OURSELVES. You need to let Caspian do that. You are trying to shame him into doing it YOUR way. Are you willing to take responsibility for all the situations his leaving will make in his life? Because, that is what you would have to do if you continue to try to force your will on him.
Peace be with you,
Terri
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Carmel
Flashing the middle finger of my left hand to the Cong. Serv. A few weeks later my parents lodged a complaint to the same individual and the wheels of fortune began turning. Df'd at 15! Signal victory for me!
carmel