Mom Says She Probably Won't Go To Daughter's Wedding If Off Pioneer List (page 2)

buffalosrfree

I feel sorry that your mom won't go if it means she can't grovel at the feet of her god (pioneering status), I wouldn't let her see pictures, a video or anything about the wedding, If she won't go dont let her live it through pictures, or videos. She makes the choice she lives with the decision. Cut her off, she is cutting your daughter off so cut her off.

minimus

This just proves (her thinking), that PRIVILEGE and IMPORTANCE is what makes people tick. JWS need to feel they're quite special. Most have no education and yet are considered by the others as being more learned than those with real schooling. Many Witnesses have no skills or means yet they feel BETTER than others because they really have no life. So so sad----for such ones.

undercover

Sorry to hear that, Min. I'm sure you mom thinks she is doing the right thing. Unfortunately she has taken the WTS's view as her own and it is keeping her from enjoying the wedding of her granddaughter.

Another family disrupted by the policies of the WTS.

minimus

I just talked to my mother....She never even brought anything up....like nothing was ever said.

undercover

Good ole Mom. Nothing works like a little guilt trip. Make a big deal about it. Then ignore it. Then she'll claim that she's the one whos being mistreated when you leave her out of the plans (since she said she wasn't coming). All this and it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with your daughter and her having a happy wedding day. Moms. Ya gotta luv em.

minimus

(Un)fortunately, she gets a lot of support from the "friends" in the Hall. The only thing is, of course, it's all conditional.

blondie

min, in the end she has to make her own decision, even if she let's others influence her. I had one family member that felt they had to impose their conscience on my other relatives. Actually, it had the opposite affect and made them decide to come.

I was just curious, was this one elder or the body of elders who approached her. Also, is that elder and his wife that said they were coming in the same congregation as your mother? If so, maybe she could come with them.

I know an elderly pioneer sister who was ~~threatened~~ ~~pressured~~ encouraged by an elder not to go to the wedding of a relative. She went anyway and was not removed as a pioneer. She called the CO and he told her to follow her conscience. She made sure the elder(s) knew she called the CO and what his response was.

Blondie

minimus

The elder and wife have been friends since the 50's. They are in my mymom's cong. which was the same one we were in. My aunt was approached by 2 elders in a different hall. The bottom line is that these programmed JWs are battling their "Bible-trained consciences". Even if they might be told they could go, they'd still feel guilty for goinh. Ha!

wannaexit

She said that pioneering was something she chose to do over the last 40 plus years.

LOL since when has anyone been allowed choice in the borg.

wannaexit

minimus

She was given the choice to either regular pioneer or get in pioneer time without the all important title.

Mom Says She Probably Won't Go To Daughter's Wedding If Off Pioneer List

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