"The funny thing is she even mentioned to me that she appreciates that I have not bothered to try and have contact with my old JW friends. Ironic how it would be wrong for me to call or email her, but it was ok for her to 'reach out and say hello' oh.. and ask for help"
It?s this kind of pious self-righteous attitude that makes my skin crawl, even after all these years.
My JW sister disowned me more than twenty years ago, shortly after I left the group. I lost my relationships with my two nephews and niece. Not one of them was more than eight or nine years old at the time. I wasn?t allowed to grow up with them and now they?re all grown and probably have families of their own. Don?t know. I?ve never heard from any of them. But when MY little girl was born (eight years ago) suddenly my sister wanted to become Aunt Dee. Never heard a word from her for something like thirteen years. She sent us a bunch of baby presents and a little card that asked us to kiss the baby for her! It was very clear by the things she said that she thought it perfectly all right to have a relationship with MY kid. Hypocrite! But when some time went by and I didn?t acknowledge "gifts", she complained to my JW mother how I didn?t respond to her "loving" gesture. I told my mother that there was to be no relationship any longer between me and my sister and that was the last time my sister ever came up in dialogue with my mother. Oh, a few times my mother mentioned something about her or something about her family, but I didn?t even acknowledge that she had even said anything. I just changed the subject rather obviously. She ?got it? pretty quick.
After all these years, this is the only thing about my JW experience that when I think about it, I can get really pissed off about. How dare that bitch think she's good enough for my little girl but that I?m not good enough for her kids? Oh, fuck that.
She is still my sister and if she (or anyone in her family) needed something like money, or an organ transplant, I wouldn?t hesitate to offer my help. But I?m interested in NO relationship with them. One thing the JW?s taught me, is how to shun. And I?m a damned expert at it now. You bet ya.