I don't think people were too surprised that I left. I never really fit in with them from the beginning.
They're probably surprised that it took me so long to leave.
Walter
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I don't think people were too surprised that I left. I never really fit in with them from the beginning.
They're probably surprised that it took me so long to leave.
Walter
I think so. My boyfriend says that they probably don't even give me a second thought anymore. I told him if they saw me they would (maybe that is my JW mind deceiving me).
I was in the park the other day wondering how many of my old "friends" saw the organization for what it was and left (either quietly or with a bang). Would be interesting to know.
Purza
A couple days ago I popped over to E-watchman and introduced myself. They were pretty incredulous that I could leave the "truth". Surely I must have learned how bad the world out there is and want to "return"..tsk, tsk, I exited the same day as the atmosphere was unbearable.
carmel
Yep. Don't care one way or the other.
Not many know yet that I have left. I went to meetings off and on over the past year. But, a few years prior to that a friend said that she could not see me ever leaving the truth. And I agreed with her as well.
Later, when I was trying to deal with life, an elder asked how things were and I remember telling him that I just needed time on my own. I even said that I still believe its the truth, its just I needed a breather.
All my life, I never thought I'd be here where I am now. I talked to an ex-JW friend recently and he thought I'd never leave either. He said I was just too honest of a person to leave. I was glad to hear that from him and am very happy with the decisions I've made now.
So, once wind gets out that I'm not a JW anymore, alot I'm sure will be shocked. But, what the hell. I just can't wait for that time. LOL
Yes, shocked. I know my friends thought I was strong in the truth because I did the things like studying, commenting, researching, pioneering, going to Seldom Worked Territory and trying to do what was right during bad circumstances............
but I am still strong, still researching and they are the ones that are left with the baggage. I am free.
When I left it was a double whammy as I left my X husband and the Congregation at the same time. I'm sure some were shocked at my leaving the B'org, but few shocked that I left my husband. The affair he had with an Elders wife was very well known in our small community.
I do remember when driving the moving van out of town I yelled out a big GOOD RIDDANCE! I never looked back or went back except to see family, I hated that place too many bad memories.
Yes. My sister told me she met someone we knew when we were kids. He was raised a JW but never baptized. She told him that she wasn't a JW anymore. Then said, "Thirdson isn't either." The guy was "blown away".
3rd
I know I shocked everyone. I was Mr. Model Witness, and I changed my mind overnight. I think they feel like they can explain away the fade (e.g., "Well, you know, honey, he had been 'spiritually weak' for some time."), but when someone is just go-go-go-go-STOP overnight, it rattles them a bit.
SNG
I'm mostly fading, so I haven't heard much reaction yet to anything, though one friend said he wasn't really that surprised.
I've received more 'surprise' from most of my non-jw relatives who thought I'd never leave the org behind since I was such a seemingly devoted dogmatic dub.....sheesh
basically I still have many more 'reactions' to go through on this whole crappy deal
boa