About a few days ago I went to hand in my final paper at a university In manhattan. I won't go into details about the school because I want to keep it to a certain extent personal. There is this professor that is 38years old but he looks like he is 26 years old. Anyways I'm 24 years old and he was flirting with me, but the thing is I liked him since december. He is seperated from his wife and has a 7 year old child he lives on his own. I told him if he could meet up with me which he did. I told him how I feel but he says that I'm beautiful and he likes me as an individual and that is up to me to determine how I want the situation between us to go. All he keeps bringing up is sex and I told him I respect myself and I don't get into the physical aspect of it unless it's a very stable relationship that could take years. He said basically you only live once. He says other women tell him he's fine an all this bull crap he asked me if I fantasize about him and crap. The problem here is that I'm in a relationship and I love the person I'm with, that is why he tells me I call the shots. Then he tells me not to tell my man because he will feel insecure. Another thing he said was that what could we do and speak about if we were to hang out. What kind of bullshit is that! It was as if he was talking down at me, like what could he possibly have in common with me. I don't beleive in cheating that's what I told him and i REFUSE to kiss him because I consider that cheating. I need your help here because What makes me any different from the other girls is like he wants to get in my pants and if he had the chance I believe he would've slept with the other girls in the class. All he kept saying is that he is a man and all the people in his class were girls, this is coming from a man that says he is honest and never cheated on his wife while they were married. Should I forget about him and give him the boot?
I need advice quickly please
by alison 17 Replies latest social relationships
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bebu
Would you want a long-term relationship with a guy who is self-centered, willing to deceive people for his own interests, and break up your own relationship??
I don't understand why the answer isn't obvious to you.
"Run, run, run, as fast as you can." And don't meet/encourage him further.
bebu
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joannadandy
By the several "bull craps" you inserted in your tale, I agree with bebu in that you already know the answer to this.
He wants to get physical, you don't. The End. (By the way that's not the only thing that's messed up here-but it is a large enough reason on its own that you shouldn't consider seeing this many anymore.)
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kls
He is looking for sex , plain and simple, he is looking at you for his own pleasure and could careless about you the person.
If your relationship with your boy friend is good why blow it for a sex partner. He want's trophes not you. -
talesin
forget about him and give him the boot?
Yes, yes, yes!!!
He is only wanting casual sex, and you have said it's not what you want.
Then, take a look at your relationship. Ask yourself why you are interested in someone else?
talesin
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Special K
Sounds like he wants to "USE" you...
You are absolutely right.. he is trying to get into your pants.
He's made it perfectlly clear from what you are saying.. he wants to get into your pants and that's all.
sincerely
Special K
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undercover
He just wants to nail you. He's a selfish predator. Stay away from him. You're obviously attracted to him some, but he has way too much baggage to deal with. Run and run fast.
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Bryan
Then he tells me not to tell my man
This tells me he doesn't expect you to two to have a permenant relationship. You're probably just the next notch he's working on. Maybe that's why he's seperated!
Bryan
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PurpleV
If you are considering cheating then maybe you should gracefully break up with your BF so he doesn't get his heart broken when he finds out it's because of another man.
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Nina
Report him NOW to the Dean of Students, to the Dean of his Department, to (your school's version of the) Office of Institutional Equity, and to someone in the Counseling Dept. if your school has one. Put it in writing. Add to it that you do not want the information released publicly.
The NOW is so that he can't mess with your grade.
These things happen routinely. Don't feel that you will be blighting your name by reporting him. You will be saving your neck!
Nina