I need advice quickly please

by alison 17 Replies latest social relationships

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  bebu

  Good advice, nina!!

  bebu
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  techton

  Here's the thing, Alison...If you want to end up right, you want to start out right...You obviously value long term relationships....does this seem like a good start, keeping in mind all the negatives you've pointed out?
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  ms.mjg

  Here is the thing that most young women dont realize, men can be easy too. He is looking for a victim. If he's trying to give it up with no strings attached and telling you not ot tell your man, he has a package that he is giving away, if you get my drift.

  Story: you give him , he gives you disease, you dont tell your man, your man gets disease, you never told him, you are all alone trying to pick up the pieces.

  I dont even recommend that you go to the dean. You're not the first, you wont be the last. But just to get an idea of how true the Story is go to the public health station at your school and get the stat on STD's reported in women on campus. You will be surprised and you will be glad that you didn't even kiss him.

  ms.mjg
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  patio34

  Hi Allison,

  You said, in part:

  I liked him since december.

  I told him how I feel but . . . All he keeps bringing up is sex and I told him I respect myself and I don't get into the physical aspect of it unless it's a very stable relationship that could take years.

  He says . . . crap.

  I'm in a relationship and I love the person I'm with,

  he tells me not to tell my man because he will feel insecure.

  I don't beleive in cheating

  What makes me any different

  Should I forget about him and give him the boot?

  Based on the sections above from your post, if someone came to you and asked you for advice in the same situation, what would you advise them? I think you know the answer.

  Good luck,

  Pat
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  Flash

  He is seperated from his wife and has a 7 year old child he lives on his own.

  Forget him and stay focused on school and your plans for your future!
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  Cicatrix

  "All he keeps bringing up is sex"
  
  There you go. Are you sure you're willing to risk your relationship with someone you love for a guy whose motto is you only live once. I'll bet that's not the ONLY thing he only does once! But at least he's more direct than some guys.
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  alison

  Thank you for all the advice. I have listened to what you guys told me. He did e-mail me saying he wants to get to know me for the individual I am but you know what I don't care because I opened my eyes, of course with the help of everyone in the forum who wrote to me. Thanks alot once again.
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  Atilla

  There is this movie with Kevin Spacey who is a college professor and who sleeps with a student-"Life of David Gray" or something. First watch that movie for some good ideas and I think you will know what to do. I was asking around my school about professors and students hooking up-seems like the situation regulary occurs. Now at my school, the professor would be left go but every university is somewhat different and in fact some schools even have guidelines, you know, don't be having sex with a student who is actively taking your class but beyond that, anything goes.

  I say if you can get a good grade, go for it, why not-you are in college. However, I know a lot of girls who do better their grade just because of their looks which ultimately affects some professors to be more generous to them without even putting out. I guess it's all how you approach it.