-----------"I say no absolutes."-----------
Right on , Frankie. When I thought about it more, that is what I came to.
Do You Defend Your Friends Even When They Are Wrong?
by new light 25 Replies latest jw friends
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Corvin
yeah . . . I am goin to have to go with "no absolutes" . . . but AlanF also makes a good point too.
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Sunnygal41
A true friend is someone who isn't afraid of telling you when you're wrong. A false friend will lie to you, or allow you to lie to yourself, or engage in self-destructive behavior without comment. Just suppose you yourself unwittingly start doing something stupid. Wouldn't you be grateful to your friends if they told you that what you were doing was stupid, you realized what you were doing and you quit?
My thoughts exactly, AlanF
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Special K
Alan F.. said it all for me..
I couldn't even attempt to say it better than that Alan.
So Alan F. ...
Would you be my friend?
sincerely
Special K
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dh
yep, to all extremes i will defend/stand by my friends, even knowing they are wrong. this being said i would make them aware of the fact that i disagreed, or that i thought the were in err, and i would offer suggestions, but i would do this in private, and if they still felt it was best to pursue their course of action, i would back it at any cost.
the only thing i can think of that i would not back a friend over is if they were trying to get away with child abuse.
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Dan-O
I think its more important to back up loved ones even if they are in the wrong. Any thoughts?
Nope. Sorry. I pull 'em off to the side & say "You know what? I think you're WAY off base here, and here's why ..."
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frenchbabyface
Of course I'm with ALANF on this one ! ...
and about privaty ... (unless it is a private thing) no way !be sure it will come out when things happen (unless my friend is too weak - to get it) - I can even defend the other side if I feel like it is the right thing to do at the moment (but I can be wrong of course) and my friends are allowed to do the same about me in every way whenever they want (even if they are not friends - cause in this case they are my friends) When I'm in the wrong, I want to know it right then. For instance, I don't care "shame" if what I did or said was/is a shame, it would just mean that I deserved it "shame is good" to me when I can learn from it.
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SixofNine
But I used to be such a stickler about everything, and I never knew the extreme pleasure that comes from backing someone up purely based on friendship.
If you mean "lay off my friend, we've all been wrong at times" or "lay off my friend, he said he was sorry", then sure, I'm all for it.
If however you mean obfuscating the position of your friend because you know he's in the wrong but you don't want to see him lose, or getting aggressive with the other person or persons when you know your friend is in the wrong, then no, I think that is sleazy and of low character. How does that saying go "With friends like that, who needs cockroaches?"?
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Country_Woman
depends on how serious they are wrong I guess.
when they just made mistakes, I will defend them - when they have murded some one , i would turn them over to the police - So it depends......
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Nosferatu
It depends on the situation. First of all, everyone in the world doesn't need to know my friend is in the wrong. It's none of their business, however, I will confront the friend when he/she is in the wrong. They can lie to everyone else, but they better not lie to me.