by Nosferatu 14 Replies latest jw friends
Thanks for the good wishes everyone. I just think the whole thing is highly amusing! I wonder what he's going to do when all the company comes in from out of town (which are staying in my parents' house), and they're all talking about the wedding? He can't escape it.
I don't really care how miserable he is. He's done enough damage to me, and now it's all coming back to bite him in the ass. The thing is, I'm not putting any effort into making him miserable, he's doing it all himself!
Nos, you have the right attitude. This is your life not his.
Oww (((Nos))) daddy's can suck at times, eh?
Enjoy your day, make it a beautiful one
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Blue Bubblegum Girl
Sometimes it seems, weddings get so messed up because of "family". In my first marriage, I was in the df'd state, so when my future mother in law called my mother to request her help and assistance with the planning(unknown to me until afterwards) she was told just what I had told her she would be told....that I was being punished for behavior unbecoming a christian and neither she nor dad would give any assistance or attend. My dad probably never even knew about it at all. She always spoke for him in matters such as this. My husband's family thought they were being slighted and took it personally. They thought this was horrible behavior for parents to show to their oldest daughter.
So my first marriage was actually inside a church! Yep. I figured that if the mother in law wanted to take charge and do her thing, it didn't matter to me. I figured I was already doomed to be destroyed at that time in my life, so being inside a church just didn't seem significant. I had fallen in love with a non JW and was pregnant.
Years later, when I married again, --a wonderful man, loving, caring, responsible--a non JW and my circumstances were totally different. I had long before gone the route of getting reinstated, only to face the same uncertainties and descrepancies as before, and just held on by a thread for another ten years. Then I just decided that my life meant more to me than where it had gotten me thus far. I changed lots of things about my life during that time. I left my husband, moved to another state. My mom was shunning me even though I had not been df'd. She judged me because I wasn't attending meetings and because I tried to explain to her "why". My parents were never there for me. Neither attended either wedding. They showed no love and compassion when my first husband killed himself a year after I left him.
The most important person is "you" and yours. Be happy!
Best Wishes,
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I think what really gets me, is that my dad isn't a JW (he studied for a while), I've never been baptized, but there is a whole lotta shunning goin' on! Just goes to show that JWs aren't the only ones who show this behavior.
Something else interesting to add to this: I keep in touch with my dad's daughter from his first marriage. Her and my dad haven't spoken for about 3 years now. They haven't seen each other since 1987. She told me about how dad had written a letter of disownment to her (is that even a word?) He had told her in this letter that he has disowned her as his daughter. It's funny how this stuff is repeating itself.
Deep down, my dad was actually looking forward to coming to the wedding, because I had invited her. However, she can't make it because she can't get time off work (or she just doesn't want to see him). Now he's pissed off because his daughter isn't coming.
The story I always got from dad is that her mother filled her head full of garbage. I got a different story when I finally met her, and apparently there's more, but she's a bit wary of telling me.
