We Are Not on the Low Road (page 2)

franklin J

sally, glad to hear it is not you going through this.

Hope your friend is doing well and finds their way

confusedjw

The Not Simple One said:

we are the ones who are made to feel guilty or make ourselves feel guilty. But our friends, or fringe associates, are not authentic........they are sucking our lives; they are making us feel guilty.

This is a great point. A few months ago I decided to never play down my happiness when I see a witness. When they ask I tell them that everything is going great - and it is! My wife tends to avoid them and my son too, but I'm reminding them "What do you have to be embarrassed for?"

At what point do we stop fading and stop attending DC's and Memorials because that's what they think is the right thing to do?

This year. No memorial and no assemblies. I'm done pretending.

When are you ready to be authentic to yourself and the world around you and STOP feeling bad

Again, this year. Geez this is going to be a good year isn't it!

To whoever this is meant for: I hope the internalization of these issues goes away for you as time goes by. You have what seems like a very solid friend in NonSimpleSally. Good luck to you, that's right, I said "luck".

confusedjw

NonSimpleSally said to the Guy with the Beer:

But Franklin, even though your post was mistakenly directed toward me, I hope my friend reads the good advice you gave!!!!

No kidding. Franklin's posts are always solid and thoughtful.

simplesally

To Penguin dude: you are a sweetie and good luck to year this fine year.............a freedom fest is in order for you and your family!!! You have no reason to be embarrassed! You are not on that low road and keep remembering that!

confusedjw

Okay Franklin & NonSimpleSally

(((((( GROUP HUG ))))))

cyber-sista

I hear you Sally,

I was at first creeping around town hiding and running scared whenever I saw a JW and then it occured to me--this is my town and I have the right to be here too!!!. They were making me feel ashamed if I was in their space (the grocery store, etc) Well, that was me feeling ashamed, I know. But what was I ashamed of? That I had escaped a religious cult which left myself and others broken and bleeding?

While not yet fully recovered from all the programming, I too am working on and hope to continue to help others to work on it too.

Love to all!

cybs

RandomTask

Dont take too much stock in the beliefs of a dysfunctional people, especially when those beliefs concern you.

willyloman

we are on the high road.......we are being true to ourselves and clear about what we want instead of hiding who we are... even from ourselves

Very profound, sally! One for the "quotes to treasure" notebook.

Carmel

Sally, your question which was more a statement, seems timely for many who are ambivalent about fading, DFing, DAing etc. Luckily I had a sense of wonderment and excitement about exploring the world w/o the Cong. Serv. or family looking over my shoulder when I left. I never felt that seeking truth for myself was in any way second class or "low road". I guess independent investigation of reality was inborn and couldn't be defeated by all the JW indoctrination. Others who have had the misfortune of years of programing and a huge investment are likely to be cowed by the feelings of guilt and fear, something I felt but quickly dismissed as non-utilitarian.

Thanks for a great thread.

carmel

We Are Not on the Low Road

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