Any suggestions are welcome

skittles4u

I have been dating my girlfriend for a little while now. We have a great relationship, for the most part everything is great, we get along etc..

But she has a concern about me. She says that I need to "woo" her more than I do. Now I understand that ladies loved to be "wooed" by their man, but quite honestly I think that I am oblivious to this need that she has. I certainly don't do this on purpose, I really want to treat her the way she deserves and initiate some great time together. As a side note it's not like I don't do anything for her, I do quite alot but she just really wants to continually feel special by me and I don't blame her

So, anyone have any suggestions on what I can do for her, where I can take her? And how I can make this a priority instead of letting time go by and forgetting to do these little things for her,

Thanks a lot.

desib77

I think just realizing that she has a need that isn't being met is a giant step....from here just pay close attention and study her.....also listen.....you'll realize what things you could do that would mean the world to her.

Desi

truthseeker1

I fall in the same boat of not enough "Wooing"

Some girls are high maintenance, some arn't. But its pretty easy to let a girl know she is being though of, and thats what most of them want. Bringing her flowers for no apparent reason (because you were thinking of her) is a great way. Weekend trips can help too. Woo != $, and if it does, then you need to find another girl.

She wants to feel special. She wants to feel like you constantly think of her.

If she is more laid back, she could be woo'd by a six pack of beer, a large pizza, and the NBA finals to watch. But not likely....

Atilla

Take her to the Kingdom Hall and then a Sunday afternoon in service, oh wait never mind. Sorry, no suggestions.

skittles4u

also listen

Yeah that's really important. The other day she threw out a number of hints as regards to something she wanted me to do and I quite honestly didn't catch even one of them.

So I would prefer it if she just came out and asked without the hinting thing.

desib77

So I would prefer it if she just came out and asked without the hinting thing.

Sorry, that just isn't what women do. Women don't want to have to spell it out for you. That is just too easy. They want a man who will put the extra effort in to figuring out what would make them happy. You doing something special for her without her having to tell you what to do will make her feel loved.

Desi

jgnat

Put reminders in your calendar. Randomize it a bit so she doesn't catch on. Here are some romantic ideas I have seen done with great success:

Pick up a nice rock while on a walk with her. Write some sweet nothings on it with indelible marker. You are a man, so eloquence is not required. "You are hot" will do. Then give her the rock and let her know how special she is.
Unless she is a rose freak, vary your flower choices. Roses are so, so, so....predictable. Try a blooming plant or chrysanthemums (they last longer). Use the little free card they offer, and write some sweet nothings on it. "You are hot" will do. Have the flowers delivered at unexpected times or places.
Tell her that dinner was awesome, and offer to do the dishes while she watches her favorite show.
Hold her hand in public, and when the sidewalk is clear, gaze lovingly in to her eyes.
Look at her when she asks you how she looks. "You are hot" will do.
With sweets, go with quality rather than quantity. A single Bernard Callebaut chocolate speaks louder than a kilo of Oh Henry bars.
When she says she loves you, say more than "ditto" in return. Be specific about why you find her so special. "You are hot" will do.

Surprise, variety, touching, eye contact, "being there" are all keys to making an event special for your lady.

(I am a big believer in "spelling it out" for the guys. As an older woman, I can't afford to wait for my honey to catch on.)

skittles4u

Women don't want to have to spell it out for you. That is just too easy

Good point. Now she just brought these things to my attention last night. How long should I wait to apply? Because if I do something tonight or tomorrow wouldn't she think that I did these things only because she brought it to my attention?

skittles4u

Thanks jgnat! Those are all great suggestions.

I love the rock one!!

desib77

How long should I wait to apply?

I don't see any reason to wait. The only thing I would caution you about is doing 1 or 2 things and then just slipping back in to the old routine. Keeping in mind the things you talked about months down the road will be sure to impress her. It makes a woman feel like a man doesn't care when he quickly forgets what was discussed.

I think you are doing great! Best of wishes to you both!

Desi

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