by unique 36 Replies latest social relationships
Crazy Drinker -
I appreciate your explanation-
However, I don't live in a glass box where everything is perfect and am the person I am because of mistakes I have made - each one I am sure has taught me a life lesson.
But, I would rather love and lose than to have not loved at all.
Yes, this isn't right, but you know what LIfe is too short - If I died tomorrow - would I have any regrets? ABSOLUTELY NOT.....
I know where you are coming from, Unique, very well.
Why hasn't the JW disfellowshipped him? It's obvious to me by his actions that he has and is definately rebelling this has been going on for several months now. Are Elders blind?
(he is married and JW Ooops) anyway I don't know what to think about your relationship ...
But about the question above ... It seems that Elders don't bother like hell those they know they can't handle or get scared ... they will reacting when everything will be too obvious for everyone ... by a simple : DF (if he is Baptised).
Honestly you can say "FY I have sex all over the places and cheated on my wife every single day " to and Elder and then say "I'm sorry" and everything is still ok. you can do it twice and more and more and more ... They might even get interested in the details ... ask for the pedophiles (they just love them) - sure they are saying I'm sorry each time !
Precision about : Honestly you can say "FY I have sex all over the places and cheated on my wife every single day " to and Elder and then say "I'm sorry" and everything is still ok.
To me somehow it means that only honnest Bro and Sis get DF'd ! because they don't say they are sorry if they are not !
Unique:
1) If he loves you he can wait for a divorce
2) If he is doing this to his WIFE, then obviously he could do the same to YOU. How would you feel then?
You are just setting yourself up to get hurt really bad. There are Billions of single men out there go find one or wait till he gets a divorce.
Unique,
By his actions, as you mentioned, this man you're dealing with is not a JW. He's a married man, leading a double life, and you're in for a lot of heartache.
For your own well-being, please quit now while you're ahead.
DY
I have several rules for dating
#1 is: DONT DATE A MARRIED OR ATTACHED PERSON!!!
#2 is: DONT DATE A JW
#3 is: dont date inanimate objects, but that that one doesnt apply in this situation
Trust me it's bad news. And lets just say, for some odd reason he actually does leave his wife for you, how secure can you ever be in your relationship with him, knowing what his track record is? I know it seems like a hard thing to do, and I dont know the guy, but the whole situation just has "bad news" written all over it
p.s. as a woman I think it's a disgrace to do something like that to another woman. Women always complain "why do men cheat"? Well because it takes two to tango and he's cheating with another woman who if she knows he's attached doesnt know how to say NO.
I wasn't going to get in to the near-judgement mode, but since it's open, I'll speak as one who had a cheating husband. I never thought I'd feel sorry for his current wife, but she has phoned me when he hasn't come home, wanting to know where he might be.
She bought his story about what a b**ch and bad mother I was because she was "in love" and wanted to help the dear, sweet, misunderstood man. How awful it must be to never know for sure is he's cheating on her.
As one of my kids said, "nothing good ever comes of relationships built on deceit." And this was a twelve year-old talking!
Emma
Doubtfully yours -
I do believe he is leading a double life. Not only with me, but with everything around him - job, social events, sports etc.
I cannot put it into perspective, and I do not wear blinders - but I told him that it isn't that he has to decide between his wife and I - because as far as I can see he has to decide whether he is JW or if he is going to be an ex-JW. His wife even told him that if he is DFd or expelled whatever the term is that is used she chooses JW, and that would be it.
I hate to say it but I kinda think that is what he is hanging onto - the fact that however the situation prevails he may not have to make a choice at all because the WT can make it for him.
All I can say is that I love this man - and have assured him that I am there for him, if he decides to stay in the JW then we will probably part ways but remain friends, if he chooses not to I am there to endure the trials and tribulations that lay ahead of us.
ONE DAY AT A TIME, that is all I can say....Thanks everyone I appreciate your feedback, and believe me it will make great starter conversations.
