by minimus 40 Replies latest jw friends
Finding, I feel sorry for those of you who went before the elders in a kangaroo court. I'm lucky. I was summoned and I responded with a "mutual dissadmiration" letter and was summarily DF'd in absentia. Got the registered letter and sent it back telling the cong servant to use is as toilet paper. I was scared to death of Jehovah but not enough to tell the jerk what to do with worthless paper products..
carm
One of the things I regret in my years as an elder is all the judicial commitees I was involved in. No wonder people are so afraid to get an elder disturbed over anything! What elders BLOT OUT OF THEIR MINDS is---that they are hurting people. They're playing with their minds, making them feel GUILTY over any little transgression or inner feeling, even!! I apologize to all of those that have suffered because of the JW judicial experience!
What elders BLOT OUT OF THEIR MINDS is---that they are hurting people. They're playing with their minds, making them feel GUILTY over any little transgression or inner feeling, even!!
Exactly what they did to me. It seemed the more repentant i showed myself to be the more determined they were to disfellowship me.
I apologize to all of those that have suffered because of the JW judicial experience!
You don't need to apologize to us for the sins of others. I'm just glad that we have ex-elders now with us helping us to understand and recover. Thanks.
I used to worry about talking to DF'd people until I found that out that 3 separate elders in 3 different congregations were having frequent contact with family members and business associates that were DF'd. When an elder asked me about talking to a DF'd friend, I brought up all those situations and said I had proof and would go to the CO if they bugged me about my "little" contact. They left me alone after that. The elder who talked to me was one of the 3.
Blondie
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Three cheers for Blondie. I love hanging out with intelligent women. Priceless the way you handled that and True that they do this.
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I hit rock bottom when I was disfellowshipped and even before I was disfellowshipped I was torn because I knew this religion was a bust for me.., Within short I accessed by anger and was so spiteful I never went back. I was bitter because of all the hypocrisy and favourtism with the elder arrangement. How they handle the flock and how they handle members of their own family can really be hypocritical.
Anger and being spiteful is not good for you .. but in my case, it was a godsend. It gave me the distance I needed to really have a look at this Stupid, stupid religion.
sincerely
Special K
What devastated me about being disfellowshipped many years ago was the fact that I loved my parents and other relatives so much and they treated me as if I didn't exist.
It was a horrible time in my life. That fact that I was so young and unexperienced about so many things and that my world was the WTBTS and its people made it all so overwhelming.
If I'd be disfellowshipped today it wouldn't affect me as much. I've built a network of non-believing friends relatives to fill my world.
It's somewhat sad to say, though, that I've mastered the ability of leading a double life (JW/non-JW) and that's how it must be for now.
DY
Voted off the Island on 1-05-92 went straight to the police station applied for and recieved a gun permit.
Then I withdrew $1,200 and I boogied on down to the gun shop and bought an AK-47 with two 75rd drum mags,four 40rd box mags,a whole lotta ammo.[legal at the time]
I would practice my Rambo routine,in my basement.
Notice:I no longer have the weapons.
I got a website instead. www.DannyHaszard.com The pen (PC) is mightier than the sword.
Someone close - I'd treat them the way I always did. I certainly wouldn't shun them. If they did something really repugnant, I'd let them know I did not approve. But I'd still speak with them and carry on normal family/friendly relations.
"They treated me as if I didn't exist"......That says it all. They consider you DEAD!!!!!!!!
I knew they would treat me the way they did/do... But still kinda shocking because I helped so many of them by fixing their cars, helping them move, yadda yadda yadda.
