I feel good

by DanTheMan 22 Replies latest jw friends

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  Lehaa

  One cost of leaving the JW's that I wasn't aware of when I mailed off my bitter little DA letter was the devastation of losing the sense of identity and community that I had there. I think that is why this board is so important for me

  Ditto, I knew what I was doing when my actions lead to my DF'ing, the reality is so much harsher than any of us ever thought.

  As far as the "true me" I think it's someone that we are comfortable and happy with at the time. We all have many personalities, it's just part of our make up.
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  lisavegas420

  But tomorrow I might be right back to "ugly Dan" - paranoid, suspicious, resentful, hostile, jealous, moroseful, the whole litany of self-defeating and childish emotions that have become such an agonizing, almost intolerable and suicidal thought inducing part of my daily existence.

  WHAT???? I haven't met that part of you...maybe you should get into acting. The Dan I met was more like

  sane, calm, and alive

  Well maybe the paranoid part ...

  Lisa
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  Brummie

  Great post Dan, if the joy does waver, remember it will be back, theres always a brighter day.

  thumbs up

  Brummie
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  ZazuWitts

  Dan, Carl (larc) has often told me what a fine young man you are, said you just needed to turn things around a bit. I think you have done it!!! Hang on to that thought, please. You are on the right track.
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  DanTheMan

  Lehaa:

  I think it's someone that we are comfortable and happy with at the time

  By jove I think you've got it. The cult trained us to doubt ourselves and to believe that existence outside of the borg is a doomed waste. I think the best revenge is to be happy and comfortable with yourself. JW's hate that. I know how much discomfort and cognitive dissonance I experienced when as a dub I would come into contact (through work, family, or whatever) with very solid likeable people who I knew would never convert to JW's, simply because they were such solid likeable people!

  Lisavegas:

  You don't know me very well. LOL

  Brummie,

  You're the coolest cat ever.

  Zazu:

  (larc) has often told me what a fine young man you are

  I think he's going senile
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  larc

  Dan, I have been senile for some time now, but I am still a happy camper. Some day, I might be drooling whilst in my chair in the nursing home. I still will have a grin on my face.
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  czarofmischief

  Hey man,

  You're okay. I re-read what you wrote to my "personal" thread from a year ago and hey, we're all good here. Our differences are miniscule. Democratically resolvable. I'm happy you are feeling good.

  Peace, my brother.

  CZAR
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  DanTheMan

  larc ya old geezer, thanks for your post and email buddy

  Czartriolic Mischievious one, peace to you also

  I'm listening to the girl singing the Star Spangled Banner at the All-Star Game right now. ARGH I hate it when they embellish it with a bunch of extra notes and voice wavering all over the place. Sing it straight dammit!
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  kls

  DAN THE MAN, i heard her singing also and i felt the same as you ,,,, OMG i am turning in to you .
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  Lehaa

  By jove I think you've got it.

  Thanks Dan,

  I came to this realisation when my marriage was on it's last legs. Had spent my whole life trying to be what others thought I should be, especially my husband. I was talking to my uncle about trying to sort it out and just try an be a better person. He just said to me no, you need to be you and if your husband can't accept that then you will both be miserable. He said I was a beautiful person and needed to go out and find someone who embraced all my qualities and personality traits, good and bad.

  Only then was I able to realise that I liked who I was it was others who had a problem with me, not me with myself.

  Funnily enough my uncle is an elder, go figure.