He gave you life, put a roof over your head supported you for many years, I'm sorry if he wasn't the perfect father, perfect parents are hard to come by so are perfect children.
Yeah, let's hear it for Nosferatu's Dad!
No child expects their parent(s) to be perfect. However, I know for myself, I damn well expect them to act DECENT.
BG
"Legally separated" from Daddy Class
Post-wedding thoughts
by Nosferatu 14 Replies latest social family
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BeautifulGarbage
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LoverOfTruth
"Just because he doesn't love you the way you want him to love you, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you"
He's most likely totally oblivious to how he's behaving.
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shamus
I would have to agree... he is probably completely oblivious. Toxic family sucks.
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Nosferatu
Some interesting comments on this thread so far.
Simplesally, not too sure on what your history with your parents is, but it's good to hear that you have a good relationship with them. However, I'm guessing that our experiences have been much different.
Scully,
You can't do anything to change him, but you can change how you interact with him. Maybe some space and distance between you is a way to begin the process of doing that.
That's basically what I've been doing for the past six years. By putting distance between us, I believe I've been able to avoid much frustration which roots from our interactions. He says a lot of things which I just let roll off my back. But still, the major "attacks" do hurt. Thankfully, I've grown immune to the little ones.
Loveroftruth,
"Just because he doesn't love you the way you want him to love you, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you"
That's an interesting statement. I've been trying to figure out if he loves me, or loves my money more. Maybe he just loves himself.
Did I ever tell you about the one time he said "I love you"? I had just moved out, and he was stopping me from taking my guitar amp with me. The day after I tried to take it (and he threatened to kick my ass), he delivered it to my house. I can't remember what else he said to me that day, but when he said "I love you", I felt physically sick. It was disgusting.
I would not doubt if he's totally oblivious to the way he's acting. I also believe the WTS is oblivious to the way they treat their members.
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Maverick
Congrads Nos on getting married!
As for your "father" well....I got to meet my girlfriends father earlier this summer, she hates this man, and he is a real piece of work! True, he passed life to her and somewhat looked after her when she was a child but all the other things a father should do he failed miserably! Now that she is a successful woman who raised two great kids without any help from him he wants to be in her life again. She is way over this guy. Sound Familiar? You feel how you feel and you have a right to those feelings! Just learn from them and use them to be the best person you can and not repeat this guys behavior and you will have turned this bad situation around. I wish you the best! Mav