My husband's youngest brother and his wife were never able to get pregnant, so have adopted 3 kids in Mexico. The youngest is 17 now. They had JW friends who spoke Spanish and they helped with arrangements through their relatives in Monterrey, Mexico.
Adoption
by RR 20 Replies latest social family
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L_A_Big_Dawg
My parents told me I was adopted when I was in 5th grade. It never really bothered me. In fact, I thought I was more special because my parents chose me to be theirs, rather than being the result of one of millions of sperm nailing an egg. I have a poem, that is under a picture of my mom, it was written by an adoptive mother to her child, and it always makes me cry. It is the truth. I don't have it where I am at, but I'll post it soon. If I can get through it without blubbering like a child.
As an adult, I have wondered why. Why did she give me up? I found out about 5 years ago why, and that is for another time. The things I wonder about is how my life would've been different if I hadn't been raised a J-Dub.
Whether or not your friends tell their daughter about the adoption is up to them. If it were up to me, I would tell the child, rather than have the child find out later, and resent the parents. This is not Santa, the Easter bunny, of the tooth fairy. This is reality and self-worth.
LABD
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Princess
In fact, I thought I was more special because my parents chose me to be theirs, rather than being the result of one of millions of sperm nailing an egg.
I think that's awesome. However, you are actually a product of both cases LABD.
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RR
Well ... if all goes well, we go to Haiti in January to pick her up!
RR
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carefully faded
Congratulations RR! I think that's awesome.
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DaCheech
My mother-in-law (JW) adopted my brother in law when she was 59. The congregation was not happy.
The elders are always up her arse
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Alana
<<My friends who just adopted their baby from Mexico have no intentions of ever telling her she's adopted>>
Why? I was adopted. There is nothing wrong with being adopted, in fact they can even tell her how special she was to have been chosen by them.
I am a very firm believer in telling children if they are adopted. It can be bad if, for some reason they find out about it later--especially if from someone else. I always knew I was adopted and I had issues enough, but I had a friend who did not find out until an adult....from someone outside of the family and it was very hurtful...they felt betrayed and like their parents lied to them.
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bebu
RR, that sounds pretty exciting!! You and your wife must be on pins and needles as you wait.
bebu
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neverthere
My hubby is adopting my 2 boys from my first marriage, we have one daughter together and that will make us one big happy LEGAL family!
Diana
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RR
My friends who just adopted their baby from Mexico have no intentions of ever telling her she's adopted
lol ... as if she won't tell!
RR