do you ever?????

by Lehaa 24 Replies latest jw experiences

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  Jim_TX

  Lehaa,

  I just walked away - and have never been DFed - or DAed - to my knowledge, so this may be different for me...

  I have seen them around. It's kinda funny... for a city of over a million folks - I still see those JWs that I knew as a youth.

  I will - if I see them first - speak to them - in a cheerful tone. No need to be rude to them. Let THEM be the rude ones.

  People - in public - will see who is being rude. You would be surprised how that makes the JWs look badly.

  Anyway - I have not had any problems with them.

  Oddly enough... those JWs - even the ones that I do not know - stick out like a sore thumb. I can usually spot them a mile away.

  Regards,

  Jim TX
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  Wild_Thing

  I am not disfellowshipped, so I usually talk to them and say hello, unless it was someone I didn't like anyway! I have had several be vrey rude and almost run! They look so foolish and everyone around sees it! I have also had several tell me how much they miss me! I always tell them they can come and see me anytime! I have yet to have someone ask WHERE I live!

  P.S. Unless it is an elder ... I NEVER tell an elder he can come and see me! I have had a couple ask if they could, and believe it or not, I actually had the guts to politely tell them "no!"
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  Nikita

  (((((((((Lehaa)))))))))

  Fortunately, I have lived 200+ miles from my former congregation for over 13 years now!

  Nikita
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  Atilla

  I haven't seen anyone I know really well, like all my old friends for like three years now. From what I hear, they are all still losers with no real job or future. Funny thing is that they aren't pioneering any more, just trying to survive.
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  mamochan13

  It isn't so much that you "get used to it", Lehaa. It ceases to matter. When I was df'd, the pain of encountering another witness was intolerable. I felt like scum, knowing that they considered me worthless (and yet that wasn't always the case with individual JW's).

  I remember once, when I was still a teenager, a good friend was df'd. She worked at the music college where I went for lessons. One night she was the only person on staff when I had to pay, and she came up to me, eyes downcast, apologetic, and said, "I'm sorry, Debbie, I'm the only person here, I have to serve you". I felt this horrible sick feeling of doing something wrong, a sin against god because I was talking to someone I was not allowed to talk to. We concluded our transaction and I said not a word to her, because that was the "right thing" to do. She moved away soon after and I never saw her again. When the tables were turned and I was the one who was df'd, I often thought about my friend. I wished I had known how it felt, known how to be kind to her, not to turn away from her. I felt sick then, but I feel even sicker now, knowing how wrong it was for me to feel as I did.

  We are the better persons, Lehaa. We are the ones who are not rejecting people simply because they make mistakes. So we should not have to feel any pain or shame when we encounter those who choose to still remain in slavery.

  It doesn't go away, but it does get easier. Its all in how we percieve it.
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  TallTexan

  Since I'm not technially DA'd or DF'd, they still try to talk to me. I'd almost rather be DA'd so that they'd leave me the hell alone. Mostly it's my relatives, but there are a couple of people I work with that are JW's and they still try to 'encouarge me' to come back to the meetings. Notice how it's never 'come back to God', but 'come back to the truth'....odd, huh? Well, not really considering who we're talking about. I get the whole 'forget about man's imperfections' and all that B.S. At least if I were officially DA'd, they'd feel guilty for talking to me and leave me alone...lol. It's so frustrating, because any time I try to point out the inconsistencies within the org and their 'bible' teachings, I get this blank stare like Peter Pan trying to find his 'happy place' because they just don't want to listen - or maybe they're afraid to acknowledge their own doubts and misgivings.

  When they say stuff like "You'll be happier if you come back" I tell them "I've never been happier in my life. Knowing how to build a true relationship with Christ Jesus and his father without the attempt at a man-made organization to take Christ's place as my mediator has been so refreshing and enlightening - I suggest you look into it". It's petty, but it makes me happy....lol.
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  Special K

  SheilaM..

  Sounds like you need to send me pictures of you and thunder.. and I'll put them on little necklaces around my neck.

  When those J.W. people get to close. I'll hold them up at them. (their reactions..from what you say..would be similar to holding a cross up at a vampire) ROFL...hahahaha.(Do they all cringe and fall sort of backwards?)

  But hey.. if it works, there might be market for you two's pictures on the exjw market..home business.

  (I'm just kidding ya .. you know)...feeling in a silly mood this afternoon I guess.

  Special K
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  Bubbamar

  HI FREYA!! Wecome to JWD!!!

  I don't have to deal with the shunning since I live a ways away from the cong. I was DF'ed from. I only really get shunned by mom.

  Elsewhere - you're great!! I love your idea!!
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  Special K

  Actually Lehaa I found the information on Atillas and Cyber-sistas threads about similar thing.

  and those started making me feel even more sparky in that department.

  I was into the big hardware store the other day and their was a bunch of people hovering around the back counter waiting for service. I saw a J.W.woman there who will never even look me in the eye when I meet her in the stores, Couldn't even give a smile to save her soul. She makes me so uncomfortable ..like I have leprosy or something.

  So I did what sheila said. I looked straight in her eyes, but spoke to everybody waiting there and said, while looking directly at her."Are all you people waiting for service here.".

  Interesting reaction, now she was the deer caught in the headlights and not me. As I gazed to the people to my left an then turned back ..she was gone and shot up the nearest aisle."

  I milled around a little and found something that wasn't priced so back I go again with my son and guess whose standing around there but her husband. I waited my turn and watched him back away to the side..so I thought hey, .. your gonna back up sort of out of line and are not going to speak up.. well then, too bad. I stepped right up beside him and asked for pricing The service guy gave me the price and when I looked up the husband guy was gone too. Whoosh gone up the aisle.

  (and I never even had to pass wind or anything) lol

  Be damned, I'm tired of all these feelings I feel when I run in to not all.. but SOME of them..

  This site has given me courage, Lehaa

  Special K
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  Country Girl

  I wasn't ever even baptized and I still get shunned in a way... but not from the Witnesses I know from my Mother's congregation, but my Mom. She doesn't call, doesn't come by, nothing. Well, she does when she needs something, and it's so patently obvious. I think if I was DF'd that I'd enjoy messin with em. If I saw one in a grocery store I'd follow them around and stare at them and smile: show up on every aisle that they were in, right behind them. What could they do? I know that is mean and childish, but I probably couldn't help it, since I am childish because I can't accept the "mature" way of being a JW.

  Country Girl