I don't play their game any longer

by Dawn 20 Replies latest jw friends

  • Dawn
    Dawn

    I've posted a few times about the troubles with my poor mom and the &*!@# elders telling her she can't talk to her daughter. Being that I'm the only family she has here to take care of her.

    Anyways - I've kept my distance out of respect for her....that is...until a few weeks ago. It just hit me one night - why the heck am I still letting them tell ME what to do? So I called mom up and told her I was coming over for a visit. She was suprised, not sure what to say I think. I told her I was going to fix a few things around her house and, yadda yadda yadda. Then when I got there I told her "Well the elders can tell you what to do, but they can't tell ME what to do." Then I pointed her to the scriptures that command children to care for their elderly parents and widows and told her I had to follow biblical counsel over what any man says.

    THEN - I e-mailed my elder/brother who has not had contact with her in over 2 years, even though he lives only 3 hour drive away - and I blasted him with these scriptures too. Told him that it was a command directly from the Bible - from God - and by not taking care of Mom he was basically slapping God in the face. I also threw in the "he who is faithful in little is also faithful in much" scripture the JW's like to toss around - and asked him if he thought he'd make it through Armageddon knowing he's refused to be faithful to a direct command from God in even a little thing.

    One week later - mom called me and invited ME to dinner.

    WOW! How's that for a turn around? I'm sure the elders will be talking to her again soon. But I've decided not to leave it alone - she'll just have to put up with me because she's alone and needs my help and no @#$@ false religion is going to keep me from doing what God says, in his bible, is the right thing to do.

    Gee - I feel so liberated! It's hard to believe I was ever one of them. It really seems silly how I let them control me. Who are these people anyways? They have no rights over me so they can kiss my rosy red american (|) .... (you know what).

    PS - I know, what's a Christian doing talking with that filthy mouth? Well - I don't cuss all the time - just a few well well placed words to season the message (ha ha).

  • kls
    kls

    Good for you and you are right , those morons cannot run your life and it is your mother

    Show them you are not afraid of them even thou they think they are god.



  • Balsam
    Balsam

    Good for you. My oldest son was disfellowshipped last month. Well we all didn't know what his active JW Dad would do. Well he said he talked to the Elders, and they told him he could call his son, talk to him visit him he just couldn't talk about religion to him. Well that is just great with my son. So his Dad call and checks on him even helped him move a new TV into his apartment, and is not acting weird. The Step-Mom though does not speak to Drew, but will speak to his girlfriend. So maybe his Dad isn't a total jerk. Good thing his Dad made that choice to talk to Drew or my son said he would never allow his Dad to see his wife and kids when he had them.

    I knew of an active JW gal who lived in a nice little house on the property of her disfellowshipped son. She loved him and talked to him all the time. She even bragged about him to everyone. No one every bothered correcting her. She was content living with her son right up to the end of her life, and he took perfect care of her.

  • confusedjw
    confusedjw

    Dawn - that post cheered me up!

    What a great attitude and approach.

    And be sure to shame that brother/elder of yours.

    Perhaps you'll end up saving your mom?????

  • Purza
    Purza

    Wow -- I am impressed. It takes guts to do what you did -- hopefully I will get there one day.

    You go girl!!!!

    Purza

  • 4JWY
    4JWY

    Dawn -

    A to you and your mom.

    In the whole scheme of things - who ARE they anyway huh? My dad wondered how I could be so BAD if I was so good to him.

    All the best,

    4JWY

  • RR
    RR

    Good for you! It amazes me how many still have the fear even after they've left. I remember when I walked out, it was like a huge weight off my shoulders.

    RR

  • Dawn
    Dawn
    It amazes me how many still have the fear even after they've left

    True! It's time to watch some of those elders fear ME! Bring it on boys......

  • Bubbamar
    Bubbamar

    What an awesome story!! I'm moved and I'm hopeful!!

    Thanks for he happy, happy post!!!

    ((((((HUGS)))))))

  • shera
    shera

    Good for you! You get em!

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