Over the period of time I have been posting on this forum I have noticed how differently we feel about the borg and dubs. I guess our point of view is based on our own particular situation and experiences, our upbringing, our culture, our gender, our relationships etc. But I think I can safely say that we all agree on one point, that the borg is a corrupt, greedy, hypocritical, dishonest, controlling, unloving, brain-washing cult! Right?
I have read some posts suggesting that it's the leaders, the GB, the elders, the ignorance, the brain-washing etc, that is to blame for the bad stuff, the hurt, the abuse in the WTS. That most dubs individually are nice, caring, gentle, trusting, misdirected souls.
Well, I beg to differ!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wasn't raised a dub so I don't have the strong emotional attatchment to family, friends and memories. I came in as a 30 yo single mother with 3 little kids. I believed the paradise earth teaching, the global family, the resurrection of the dead, the brotherly love, family unity, doing good, etc. While I believed that, I was zealous in the faith. But many things became apparent to me as soon as I got baptised, too many to mention but for eg.........the lack of sincere love except when the CO visited, after the initial love bombing before baptism!!!!! the bitching and gossiping, the sexist and racist attitudes blah, blah, blah.
But something awful happened and the truth about the WTS and dubs became clear. You all know about my child being sexually abused by a dub, the perp being protected, other kids at risk, I warn mothers and then get df'ed to keep my mouth shut. So that experience showed me how the BORG (the ones taking the lead and directing the organization) is corrupt, unloving and deceiptful......more concerned about it's public image and reputation rather than the protection of innocent children and justice being meeted out to those who hurt them. OK, that's how I see the borg.
The whole sexual abuse experience also gave me the opportunity to see what kind of people INDIVIDUAL dubs are. My 'friends'?, who spent endless hours with me and my children, who saw my pain and sadness, who saw my child forced to tolerate the abuser at meetings, who saw how unjust and unloving the elders were, who agreed that things were done wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!! 'Friends'?????? No, couldn't be. What friends tell you that they must stop associating with you because you make them think and question their faith which is already shakey? What friends abandon you just because you cannot preach something that you now know not to be true???? What nice, caring, gentle, trusting people expect you to tolerate something wrong just because it happened in the borg, YET preach to others at the door to leave their faith for the very same thing?
I truely believe that the BORG can only succeed because they have the support of the INDIVIDUALS. How can nice, caring, gentle, trusting INDIVIDUALS shun a 'sister' who has not been df'ed or da'ed just because her child was abused and the right thing was NOT done by their leaders? How can nice, caring, gentle, trusting INDIVIDUALS see news reports and documentaries with young brothers and sisters crying and suffering as they tell of their nightmares at the hands of a dub abuser???? How can nice, caring, gentle, trusting INDIVIDUALS put an organization before the life of a loved one???? How can nice, caring, gentle, trusting INDIVIDUALS hide behind an organization when they choose to be judgemental and self-righteouss????
We have all suffered in some way when we left the borg. We made a decision for whatever reason. We decided that no matter what, we couldn't live the lie anymore. Yet there are many who, even after seeing the facts, will stick with the WTS. I believe it's for selfish reasons, for their own security and future investment, no matter at what expense.
I really cannot say there is 1 dub I know of that would be INDIVIDUAL enough to stand up for ANY truth that conflicts with the WTS's truth!!!!!!!! I cannot excuse them for choosing to stick with the borg, I cannot excuse their conduct by saying they are poor, naive, gullible, uneducated, humble people. I just can't!
Well, that's my opinion and I hope I haven't offended anyone in writing this.
Cheers, Bliss