I'm really pissed off

by Nosferatu 22 Replies latest jw friends

  • Nosferatu
    Nosferatu

    Before I go into what the hell is going on, I need to give you some background....

    Over two years ago, I moved out on my roomate. He's always been jealous of me, and he was getting his family members to threaten me with eviction over a dumb issue. I moved out and never spoke to him again.

    Now, I post on a dating forum and give advice. When I got engaged, I got cold feet. I really wasn't sure if I was marrying the right woman. I posted about this quite some time ago, and was seriously considering breaking off. Obviously, I changed my mind, and I don't regret my decision at all.

    I just got off the phone with my wife. She was incredibly upset when she called. She ran into my ex-roomate at his workplace (Burger King). My wife told me that his fiance has been browsing the dating forum that I post on, and he proceeded to tell her all the negative things that I had posted about my (then) fiance.

    I'm pissed off because none of my discussion was any of his (or his fiance's) business. It almost seems like this was a direct shot at [edit] up our relationship to get revenge (him and his family are always plotting revenge on everyone else, including family members).

    My ex-roomate also wants to try and patch our friendship. Yeah right.

    Now, does anyone have any idea of how I could deal with this shit? Should I post something on the dating message board I post on directed at these two assholes?

  • Gerard
    Gerard

    Gotta be carefull on what you post on the internet...

  • Sassy
    Sassy

    yeah.. that would indeed upset her I am sure. I have sometimes said some things I would prefer not get reported to my bf as well...

    it is a risk we do take

  • jwbot
    jwbot

    Oy...I remember venting a little too much on my livejournal about my brother and he read it. :(

    Now I try real hard to live my life on and off the internet as if the person I am writing about/talking about is listening. If a love the person, I will be truthful and loving and they understand that I do vent stuff to online people on livejournal and this forum. For people I do not like...well I just stay honest, because if they see what I write and it is negative, they wont be able to deny the truth in it.

    Of course thats ideal...its not always the case.

  • avishai
    avishai

    Number one, damage control with your fiance. Tell her it was therapy, and doing so led you to where you are with her now, if you did'nt have that outlet, you may have made the WRONG decision. Tell her she knows you aren't one who does'nt do things you want to, much less marriage to save someones feelings. Obviously from your posts, you are forthright. Tell her this is obviously a dirty attempt to submarine you. Then call your friend and tell him you will take legal action if he try's to contact you or your wife ever again. If he comes on your property you will consider it a threat and act accordingly.

  • frenchbabyface
    frenchbabyface

    You married HER !!! who is she supposed to trust ? ... Be nice with her (but don't lie) if everything goes right with her meet the guy together if needed (not sure it is) to let him know that there is nothing he can do against your happiness ... you've got the control !

    I mean if someone come over to tell me such craps (that I don't need to know about cause I'm happy) I wouldn't even read the stuffs, I would send him to his own hell and shit. Cause obviously it wasn't friendly and for her hapiness !!! WTF !!!

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    avi is on a roll today - second post of his and he gets

    After having met her Nos I KNOW you made the right choice and you can tell her I said so.

    No one is perfect. and we all make mistakes. Apology and let her know that getting that out helpedyou get where you both are today and those things (whatever they were) don't add up to enough to live without her

  • gypsywildone
    gypsywildone

    Bummer! I found out the hard way never to tello anyone on the net who you are, where you live, or any pertinent information. Also, never ever put anything on the internet you do not want to see on a website, in a Yahoogroup, or anywhere else.

    Sorry you are going through this!

  • Farkel
    Farkel

    : Now, does anyone have any idea of how I could deal with this shit?

    I would advise you to tell your wife that almost everyone has second givings before marrying. You should let he know that DESPITE those misgivings you knew being with her for life was obviously more important than any misgivings you might have had. After all, you could have broken off your engagement. Yet you didn't. No one forced you to marry her. If you do this in a way that makes her feel like an exceptionally special person who's qualities are so valuable you could not be happy without her (despite whatever "flaws" she might have), you can score a home run and turn lemons into lemonade.

    Women love that stuff.

    Farkel

  • RunningMan
    RunningMan

    Yeah, man, if you can fake sincerity, you've got it made.

    Actually, though, I think Farkel is right.

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