I'm really pissed off (page 2)

Nosferatu

The thing is I've been on this website long before I met my wife. I showed him the website when I was living with him. I had no clue he was following my posts for 2 1/2 years!

I've never given out my personal information on a public forum. I know better. I didn't think that telling him of a website I hung out at would come to bite me in the ass over two years later!

Anyway, I've contacted a couple of admins on the forum, and they've deleted the threads I requested to be deleted.

Now, I've got to deal with the wife. This isn't the first time this asshole has interfered with my relationships. When I was living with my ex, he left a message that said "Stay away from (fiance), she's my bitch. Stay away from her or else".

He's putting the blame on his fiance, but I have a feeling he's using her to keep the blame off himself. It doesn't make sense. Why would his fiance be interested in my life? I don't even know the woman (as far as I know). It's the same bullshit tactics he used when I moved out. Apparently he forwarded a message from his sister stating that she was taking me to court. However, it came from his email address.

avishai

Yep. Restraining order. He's stalking you and using his fiance to do it. Restraining order, or........Well, I'm sure you can figure out what to do

Big Tex

As far as your wife, I think Avishai has the best advice. Posting on a discussion board is sometimes just a way of thinking out loud, or expressing anxiety. I think if you put it that way she would understand.

As for your ex-roomie, the guy sounds like a borderline psycho. Distance would be the best defense, unless you wanted to get a restraining order.

Special K

Sounds like you have your hands full on this one Nos

You said:

I've contacted a couple of admins on the forum, and they've deleted the threads I requested to be deleted.

That's was probably and excellent thing to do.

Also, Avishai..well his post just rocks today.

Big tex also said:

Posting on a discussion board is sometimes just a way of thinking out loud, or expressing anxiety

.I do that sometime.. it's sort of like thinking outloud...and feels therapeutic for me

I often think of what kind of reaction family members of mine would have if they could read all my posts on this forum. I try to be careful in case they ever do.

I already have two family members on here and it's looks like I will have more people I know on here in the next couple of months. It's easy to forget just how public this forum is.

Good Luck with all this Nos.. and hope it gets all settled. your (supposed friend) seems out to cause you trouble.

Special K

Nosferatu

I've been doing some thinking, and I think I know why all this crap came about.

Basically, I made a post on the other forum about how important it is to keep your word and stick to your guns. I gave the example about kicking my ex-roomate out of my life because he screwed me around. There was an indirect message when I told my wife (when I was first dating her) about this. The message was that the same went for her. I mentioned on this website that if I were to make amends with my old friend, it wouldn't be a very good message to my wife. It would mean that I will eventually go back on my word, and I can be walked on all over again.

I really didn't care if he read this post, but I'm guessing that he did, and now he sees my wife as indirectly preventing our friendship. This is the same tactic that my dad has used on me before.

Odrade

Good luck Nos, I agree the most important thing is making sure these old comments aren't festering with your wife. As for the x-friend... blah. Sucks that he's following you around. Restraining order would be nice, but unless he is physically threatening you... and how do you control someone screwing with you over what you post on a DB? No response is probably the best response, as sucky as that sounds.

Plus, if he's such a psycho, if you do something to teach him a lesson, chances are he will find some way to screw you again.

O

Nosferatu

Plus, if he's such a psycho, if you do something to teach him a lesson, chances are he will find some way to screw you again.

I've been thinking about that myself. I think the best way to deal with this is show him that I really don't give a shit if he reads what I post on the internet, or that I don't give a shit if he feeds my wife bullshit....

I will be making another post on that website about this whole experience (after I fix it up with my wife). Maybe he'll read it :)

gypsywildone

Good idea Nos. In other words, he was stalking you. Best way to deal with stalkers is to ignore them. It is good that the forum removed your comments, maybe your x-friend was exagerating a bit, eh?

Nosferatu

A bit of an update on this....

When I arrived home, she was upset. We ended up sitting and discussing some of the things that I had written on the message board. In the end, things worked out, and we strolled into the bedroom for some fun!

I have yet to deal with my ex-friend.

jgnat

Imagine your life and his life 40 years from now. He will likely die an old bitter man with no family or friends. Where will you be in forty years - still trying to get back at him? ....or will you be surrounded by great people who love you back?

That is why it is better to walk away and let him stew in his own juices.

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