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FlyingHighNow

Being cut off from adults isn't so hard. Being cut off from children you bore, that has to be agonizing. I wish a pox on the WTBTS.

Flyin'

shera

Sorry to hear you are hurting.Time will heal and talking it over with caring people.

*hugs* *kiss*

Leaving an abusive relationship is an incredibly stressful thing to go through. I can understand why you might be putting off friends at a time like this. Maybe you don't want to burden them with your problems or make them feel uncomfortable. Maybe you are having a hard time feeling that you can actually trust anyone right now.

It probably feels like things will never get better. Just take one day at a time (sometimes one minute at a time!), focus on what you need to do to get through each day (or minute) for the time being. Write down as much as you can in a journal. It will help you keep focussed. It will be a documentary record of what is happening in your life (this may be very useful if you end up going to court some day). And later on, when you've achieved a level of "normal" back in your life again, you can look back and see how far you've come and feel soooo proud of yourself and your inner strength that helped you get through all this.

Remember that we care about you too!

Love, Scully

Big Tex

Write down as much as you can in a journal. It will help you keep focussed

Excellent idea. It is a way of verbalizing deep seated feelings, and it also allows you look at hidden messages and beliefs in black-and-white. Sometimes just looking at some long held thoughts out in the open is enough to cause you look at them in a different way. Some people have done this by posting on this board.

Wendy, I would also encourage you to interact with other people. Start on this board, or another, and just talk with people. Maybe expand things a bit and meet others, go for a cup of coffee, etc. But isolation only hurts you. Don't buy into the Society's shunning by allowing them to define you. You are free. You can be whoever, and whatever you want. Grieve what you have lost, that is appropriate but at the same time embrace the life that can be.

Chris

codeblue

(((Wendy)))

I feel so bad for you....I wish I were there to talk to you....but know my heart goes out to you as I type this....

Both me and hubby are "fading" together....I am having anxiety attacks thinking my family will find out and I will be disowned as well.

Please pm me if you need to talk privately. I am here for you!

many hugs for you

Codeblue

bem

I have not been df'd but my soon to be ex- is really searching for info so I will be..He's not going to find anything..But unlike what your going through my children,are out now too,one is df'd,we are so much happier now and secure in our choice.

So that being said I cannot relate to you on that so much as I can with depression and isolation...with these I relate all too well! I read your thread earlier and was un-prepared to offer support.

Having spent some time thinking about what has helped me...The journal is an excellent idea! A friend I have made here at jwd has taught me the importance of writing things...a lot of thoughts down...Saying to me you'll learn from your-self...You will.I have....But notice I have not just a friend,that is helping me. but several friends that encourage me and help me. You will not need try it alone. And remember folks that are willing to help,and we allow them too help us,well that in turn makes them feel good about themselves and builds on strong friendships. Trust your-self you'll know how much and what to reveal to people. Be open to new advice. Perhaps different from what has/hasn't helped in the past.

For me there is nothing like being out-doors,in the sun,rain, under the sky,in the woods, by the water....lol. Be quiet and listen. Take your journal with you to write down those thoughts.

Heres hoping you feel better soon....BEM

jgnat

Hi, orbison! I am sure we have chatted before, and my subliminals are telling me you are a very interesting and valuable potential friend. Would it help to say that "This too shall pass"? Can I predict that you will be restored to all your children one day? When you are ready, tell us your story. This place loves real-life stories!

Double Edge

Hi..... sorry you're having a bad day or two. Think about building up a new social group.... hobby, church, sports, civic, back to college.... whatever. People always need people and friends, so there are others out there looking for you. ****HUGS*** will be thinking about you.

orbison11

thank you all so much

orbison11

thank you all so much

hi guys, i am kinda down, no i am really down

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