WildFire,,,,,,,,,I can feel your pain and anger( very justified anger) in your tearful post. I have used this board as a was to get my feelings out and you are right it is a form a therapy. I am sure you have heard my story many times about my mother. It is very similar to your son's in the way the LOVING Brotherhood ( <- - - ) dealt with her .
For so many years she battled a prescription drug problem, many physical problems that were painful, horrible migraines, female troubles, you name it , so it was hard for her to not take pain meds especially for the migraines. I have migraines , as does my oldest son, and I have never seen anyone suffer with migraines as horrible as my mother's migraines were,,,,,,each one was a three day ordeal, going to the ER and sometimes being admitted because of the vomiting/ dehydration. And she had them very frequently.
Anyway,,,,,,,,after she was in the rehab the last time,,,,,,,she started smoking and got a disfellowshipping letter in the mail. Not one elder went to see her while in rehab,,,,,,,,no calls, no one went to find her in her new apartment. And this woman was the first one to send anyone in the congregation a card and most of the times flowers if someone was sick. My dad was an elder and my mother was always the best hostest to the other elders who came to our house frequently to talk with dad.
I just can't get over the lack of love they showed to my mother, who was so depressed so many times all those years, and they never took that into consideration before giving the axe. Just imagine how sad her case was.......she had been addicted to pain pills, she really fought many years to get off of them, she was successful sometimes only to fall back to them . When you go thru any rehab program you are not supposed to take any kind of prescription pain pills , even with her severe migraines, for fear of the one pill getting you hooked again.
She suffered depression, drug addiction, my father ( horrible man/Elder) , my father cheating on her while she was in rehab, being d/f for smoking in rehab . Just about anyone reading what she went thru would think it was cruel to punish someone so harsly with all of that on her plate. You would think they would have tried talking to her, giving her time to stop smoking. But they never gave her even that one little thing.
I will forever blame them for at least a great part of her overall downfall.
You are so right Wildfire,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,the WT is one of the most dangerous types of cults , and needs to go down, for all of their cruelty and bloodguilt.
Hugsssssssss Wildfire and Family......especially your dear son,,,,,sending hugs to you Hon,,,,,,love ya , Dede
