They Aren't Your Friends (page 2)

Will Power

Yeah, the bible says don't worry about the guys that kill your body - whatever you do don't let them kill your spirit.

Well everytime they knock on someone's door its like attempted murder eh? If you take the bait you'll live - if you don't you are doomed to die.

Sometimes you share a house with one for over 10 years and they are told to dump you, sometimes you spend 20 years with someone, then after "the knock" they dump you. Sometimes they give birth to you then they dump you.

What do you mean they aren't your Friends, heck you can't even count on them as family for crying out loud (done alot of that)

Hey (((( kwint )))) - sounds like a bad aunt is on the rant !!

outnfree

Kwintestal,

My ex-JW friend and I keep running into old JW 'friends' lately. Sometimes I wonder at myself, because I was grateful (blech!) that when I waved to one of them, he actually waved back. She had a funnier experience just this past Saturday: She was leaving a supermarket parking lot and had a cart to return. Someone pulled in beside her and she offered him the cart before really looking at him. He replied, "Oh, no, no, no, no!!!!" with fear in his eyes, as if she were a vampire about to bite him! She, however, had the presence of mind to say "WILL you take the cart, as I'm handicapped (she's walking with a crutch after knee replacement surgery) and it would really help me out?" He took the cart. This was an elder and her former boss!!! Scared to death of DF'd sister cooties!

Anyway, I guess we could pray for their souls, because metatron is right, they AREN'T our friends...

outnfree

Preston

Well it certainly helps if you have a lot of family in the congregation, but as people here will tell you, if you came in as an outsider, you're missed far less than anyone else. I know I was, however I can't complain since it made the experience of leaving far more easier... My exit was pretty easy for a gay ministerial servant ("Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain")

candidlynuts

none of my "friends" or elders came to visit me when i had my last child and almost bled to death.. they told me the first meeting i made back that they would have come but didnt want to run into my then df'd husband. (now my ex)

no witnesses that were aware of my situation after my divorced offered ANY help. when i was homeless and sleeping in my van in my works parking lot it was one of the "wicked worldly " friend who offered me a room in their home. which caused a flurry of conference calls from elders cuz the friend was male.. funny how quickly they act if they think your spreadin your legs. (which i wasnt)

nope.. didnt have any real friends . actually i can honestly say after a life time of being a jw.. i didnt have a clue what a real friend WAS till i was out . now i know what a friend is and even more important i know how to BE a friend . and it really has increased the quality of my life.

iiz2cool

outnfree:

He replied, "Oh, no, no, no, no!!!!" with fear in his eyes, as if she were a vampire about to bite him!

It would have served him right! Sounds to me like this guy could benefit from a good asskicking.

Walter

Sassy

that is sad isn't it? I've been shunned as if I am dfd because I stopped meeting attendance too.. it's that conditional love..

it hurts a little when I think about a couple people I loved and no longer speak to me

fleaman uk

:that is sad isn't it? I've been shunned as if I am dfd because I stopped meeting attendance too.. it's that conditional love

Yep,me too but luckily only by pious wankers i couldnt give a flying **** about.Im still lucky that a few good Friends still treat me the same as always.....it is such a conditional Religion that is true.

Devils Advocate

Hey WILLPOWER -

You're absolutely right! The term "family member" doesn't stand up under scrutiny when it's applied to the JW's.

"Today you're my son/daughter/brother/sister/grandchild, but I'm not certain you will be tomorrow."

It's an insanity that's learned from the countless hours of "bible" studying they engage in. Even when you bring it to their attention they don't see their mental illness for what it is.

May the gods curse and torment them forever and ever, amen.

ESTEE

Witness experience - you can be their "friend" as judged by regular meeting attendance - other than that, you don't exist.

metatron ... yup ... they seem to have taken on the role of gawd ... errr judges ...... whatever ...

Sorry this happened to you. The way I'm handling the dubs ... I've moved to another city where no one knows me and there is no way I'm ever stepping into a kingdumb fall.

Love,

ESTEE

William Penwell

I don't know if I speak for anyone else on the board but because of the way I was brought up I was also sociably backward especially with non JW people. It has taken years to get over it. I don't know if we ever do fully get over that insecure feelings of dubism. I have to say I am 100% better than I was say 20 years ago.

Will

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