I THINK WE ALL SUFFER FROM THAT OLD COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.
THAT CONSTANT RAGING WAR BETWEEN WHAT WE WERE TAUGHT "AND BELIEVE".
VERSUS THE THINGS WE SEE AND EXPERIENCE IN REAL LIFE, THAT TELL US, WHAT WE WERE TAUGHT IS WRONG.
IN ADDITION SOME OF US HAVE RELATIVES ETC. THAT CONTINUE TO TELL US WHAT WE WERE TAUGHT IS CORRECT.
EVEN TELL US THAT IT IS NOT BELIEVING ANY LONGER, THAT IS THE CAUSE OF ALL OUR DISCOMFORTS AND NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES.
HERE IS THE BIG ONE. (WE STILL) ARE NOT 100% SURE THAT THEY ARE NOT CORRECT. WE STILL HAVE NAGGING THOUGHTS THAT MAYBE THE WBTS IS CORRECT.
WHAT WORKED FOR ME, WAS TO ONE BY ONE ATTACK ALL THE WBTS TEACHINGS. AND IN MY MIND DESTROY THEM.
WHAT HELPED ME "THE VERY MOST" WAS TO SEARCH AND LEARN OF THE CONNECTIONS BETWEEN THE WBTS AND TOBACCO COMPANIES, COMPANIES WITH CONNECTIONS BY CONTRACTS WITH THE MILITARY. THE U.N. FIASCO. ALL THE FLIP FLOPS. THEIR HATEFUL CONDUCT TOWARDS PEOPLE SUCH AS RAY FRANZ & THE OLDER MEN AT BETHEL WHO DARED TO QUESTION THEM.
ACTUALLY TO STEP BY STEP DESTROY ALL OF MY BELIEFS IN THEIR" LEGITIMACY".
IT TOOK ABOUT TWO YEARS OF WORK AT THIS AND THEN I REALIZED THAT THERE WAS QUITE A CHANGE IN MY THOUGHTS, FEELINGS, TOLERANCE OF OTHERS. MY ACCEPTANCE OF OTHERS, THAT BEFORE, I WOULD HAVE LOOKED DOWN ON AS UNWORTHY.
THE BIGGIE WAS "MY ANGER WAS DIMINISHING". I DIDN'T START TO GET ANGERY WHEN I LEFT THE ORG. MY WHOLE LIFE WAS ONE FILLED WITH A CONSTANT RESIDUAL ANGER.
I WAS THIS WAY FROM CHILDHOOD. WHY? BECAUSE I WAS BORN INTO A JW FAMILY WITH A RABID JW BELIEVING MOTHER . MY COGNITIVE DISSONANCE BEGAN IN CHILDHOOD.
I HAD CONSTANT INNER CONFUSION THAT I WOULD DENY IT EXISTED.
THIS BRAIN ACTIVITY USES UP A LOT OF ONES ENERGY AND SHADOWS ALL OF OUR OTHER FUNCTIONS. MAKING THEM LESS ACTIVE AND OPERATIVE.
THOSE FUNCTIONS SUCH AS, FAMILY LIFE, HUSBAND WIFE RELATIONS, WORK AND FELLOW WORKER PROBLEMS "LOVE AND RESPECT FOR OURSELVES" AND OTHERS .
MOST OF ALL ,OUR ABILITY TO BE HAPPY, PLAYFUL, CONTENTED, CHILDLIKE WITH OUR CHILDREN, OPEN AND FRIENDLY WITH NON JW PEOPLE.
I STILL WORK AT IT. IT TAKES TIME. BUT IT SURE IS WORTH THE EFFORT.
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