Sounds like a vendetta to me. To delete elders, take "responsibilities" away, remove pioneers, all because they attended a wedding of an "in-active" JW to a "worldly" person.
Most JWs have non-JW family that marry, etc. Do they get sanctioned for attending those weddings? Not usually.
Since your situation involves you, an elder, fading away, your family fading away, and then some of the "friends" sharing in a joyful period of celebrating a marriage of non-JW to inactive JW, it was too much for one or more of the elders in you old hall. They can't get you for apostasy(yet) so they are going after everyone and everything they can to make life hell for anyone who has anything to do with you.
Now that's a Christian religion for ya.