Do you and your significant other share religious beliefs? (page 3)

MelbaToast

He, by the way, cannot believe that because of their religion, my former friends and family won't talk to me. In his words "that's plain wrong."........

Terri, thats word for word on what my hubby said. When we went down for my dads memorial he also kept commenting on how all these people at my moms house would talk and be so sweet to him(the people from the borg) ....yet they totally dismiss both me and my sister and not speak to either of us. He found that quite sad and it angered him also quite a bit. He couldnt understand how people turn emotions on and off so quick.

He doesn't want to understand JW's; he's said he has already seen enough for a lifetime.

Me too.

I do believe, especially where we live that church can be an integral part of development....when I said I don't want to push beliefs on her...I meant in religion. I am and will continue to instill moral values..It is one of my responsibilities as a good parent. She has quite a social support group. We have many friends who adore her, and a few of them have kids either a little bit older or the same age as my girl.

You lie in bed yelling "Oh my God!" over and over. Then you feel the holy spirt enter you, and you're in!

Wow! I was a member of this church all along and didn't even know it! That was holy spirit, huh! Guess Ive been saved quite a few times then

Redneckgurl

We both left JW's at the same time, although some of our reasons are a bit different. He is really bitter about the things he was kept from growing up, like college for one. As far as the beliefs go, he doesn't agree with a lot of them now, but has a hard time letting some things go, like who goes to heaven, is there a hell, and stuff like that. He would like to start going to a church now and then I think, but one that is very liberal, like a non-denominational church.

I have pretty much decided that JW's are NOT in God's favor and do NOT have the truth. I have had a much easier time letting go and just trying to believe that God loves us all and we need to show him our appreciation the best we can. I agree with him about the sort of church I would like for us to attend. I am not as bitter towards religion as he is, I just wish my family would leave too.

--Krissy

kwintestal

Mrs. Kwin and I have the same or similar moral values in life (love thy neighbor). That is more important to us then official religious association.

Kwin

lonelysheep

We both believe in God and Jesus, but not religion. He's always had a problem with religion, saying 'they all think they're better than each other...', and now at this point, he and I finally agree. Home is less stressful now.

Scarlet

My husband and I really don't talk about our beliefs, I think we are both still sorting them all out. I would like to go to a non demonational church every once in awhile just to meet people and other families. He is totally aganist that idea and won't do it he tells me to find other ways to meet people and families. He has no desire to go to a church of any kind ever and I respect that. After going to the Kingdom Hall for so many years it does make it hard I think you are always afraid that they are going to be just as Judgmental as the witnesses are and you are not going to be able to be yourself.

frankiespeakin

My wife and I don't share the same beleifs,,except perhaps that we both are sceptics,, she is not very interested in any anti-JW stuff but would like to see the WT crash to the ground.

We differ greatly some times in interest,,which is okay with me,,but causes my wife some sorrow. I find that to make my wife happy I have to be careful about what subject we talk about. Certain things upset her,,sometimes my point of view on subjects if I am honest can really cause problems if I voice them,,so I learn what to say and what not to say in her presents,,mainly out of fear of seeing her get depressed. I walk on eggs shells basically.

The WT beleifs brought us together, we have been married for 27 years raised 2 children and so we share that in common. I love her not so much because of what we have in common intellectually or beleifs,,but because we share our lives together,,we have gotten used to each other.

chrissee

When I met my husband I was a JW but he told me he never really believed in God. I think the birth of his children changed him slightly in that belief, but he grew up a Methodist, (I think?) Most of his family only go to church at holiday times & weddings! So talking to them about religions beliefs was usually one sided, and of course they never liked my side!

Winston Smith :>D

Do you and your significant other share religious beliefs?

Yep, me being an "apostate", and her a reg pio'ing, hard-core JW; we actually do share one core religous belief:

We are both fully conviced that the other couldn't be more wrong.

CoonDawg

My wife is a "liberal" JW and I am one who just doesn't "do" church anymore. She loves many of the illicit things that I do like getting freaky and talking nasty. She says I'm her "favorite Heathen", so I guess I'm alright. We don't talk alot about beliefs, but when we do, She wonders how "someone like you can be so smart and not belive in the bible" and I wonder at her "how can someone so smart still be a JW?"

I told her that though I love her very very much, I will not go to meetings. It would piss me off and thereby ruin the experience for her and I'm not setting out to "deconvert" her. I have gone to ONE assembly with her the year before last. This year I dodged it by making a trip out of it to visit my parents. She went to the assembly with my JW mom and enjoyed herself...I went to the beach and to Hooters with my ex-JW dad and also had a great time. Hey, everybody left happy.

Ern

Dawn

She went to the assembly with my JW mom and enjoyed herself...I went to the beach and to Hooters with my ex-JW dad and also had a great time

Coon: I'd say you got the better end of that deal!

I'm a christian who regularly attends a non-denominational church. My husband is pretty much evolutionist/athiest (with a small % of belief that there MIGHT be a God). He doesn't mind me taking my daughter to church with the agreement that she only goes when she wants to.

Someone else mentioned here that if you don't teach your kids, someone else will. That is VERY true.

Perhaps you could go "church shopping" - find one that you're both comfortable with. It really doesn't matter WHERE you go, what matters is the relationship you have with Jesus. Church is just a place to go and worship, meet other people with the same basic goals/beliefs, and a social arena. Some churches have great extra-curricular activities for kids (like camp outs, festivals,etc.). Also - there are churches that don't pass the plate - the church I attend has a box in the back that people can drop $$ into, but no plate is passed. My advice is don't force yourself (or your kids) to go somewhere that you don't feel comfortable - you'll just end up resenting it more in the long run.

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