Hey Puff Candy. I'm new here, too, and have been spending a little time reading the different posts, and I hope you can find something that can help you. I was born a witness and was out by the time I was 16 and I got my mom to leave with me about a year later. My brother had left about five years earlier and it was devastating to her, so it's a pretty tall hill to get anyone to leave without someone leaving with them because I think they fear the fact that they will lose pretty much everything and EVERYBODY in their life. I know that you are a very important somebody, but when you're talking about turning your back on something that has been her entire life (faith, social net, daily routine) for the past 14 years, it's a tall order. My mom @ first wanted me to go back to the meetings and I agreed to go to one more meeting if she agreed to listen to everything the speaker was saying and tell me she could honestly believe that everything he said settled with her - after the meeting we went out to our car and she looked at me and said she didn't really feel like she agreed with everything but she was scared to leave her faith because she didn't know if she could find another faith again. Where was truth if she couldn't find it with the Truth? She eventually has found happiness, but it's been a pretty long, hard road for her, so be aware of that too. I truly wish the best for you and your mother, one of the things that drove me away from the witnesses was the way they told me to beware of how much time I spent with family members that weren't witnesses, and considering some of the best, kindest people I had ever known were NOT witnesses, I couldn't swallow any of it anymore. I hope your mom can see the same thing someday, or at least find a balance between her faith and her love for her family. It's a tall order, but maybe there is a way. Good luck.
