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Fleur

i dont want to be in the paradise without you".......

ugh if I had a dime for every time my mother said that to me...I have taken to telling her now "mom if it comes and god wants me to be there, I'll be there. I'm not afraid of god's judgement."

Of course, I'm agnostic and I don't believe armageddon is ever coming now but I can't get that black and white with her because she just ignores it. Have tried in the past and it doesn't work.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through all of this, just know that there are more of us who understand what you're going through here than don't. Many of us have mothers that were just lost to us because of their blind devotion to the WTS.

Welcome and I hope you find comfort here.

hugs

essie

Mulan

Where do you live?

If there are people on the board in your area, it will benefit you to meet them. Lots of us are Moms that can help you, and be kind of a surrogate mother. I have several people that look to me that way, because their own mothers are so indoctrinated, they can't have normal relationships.

Not all JW's are like her though, and many of us have JW mothers and fathers who still accept us as we are, because they don't want to lose us.

If you really want your mother at your wedding, have a judge perform the ceremony, and have the wedding at a private home, a hotel, or anywhere but a church. There really is no reason they can't attend............their own elders will tell them that much.

Welcome to the board and I hope you find some peace here and a lot of knowledge too.

outnfree

Hello, Puff Candy! Welcome to the Forum! (You, too, Divan!)

I' m sorry for all the pain JW mothers cause their children, having been one myself....

(((((Mulan)))) <<-- what a sweetie!

outnfree

Dansk

A GREAT BIG WELCOME, PUFF CANDY.

You’ve come to the right place. Everything you are experiencing has been experienced by many, many people here. You are now amongst a great bunch of people. It’s great to meet you!

Ian & Claire

NewLight2

Welcome to the forum Puff Candy

It is sad that a high control religion can take away a much loved mother from her daughter just because that daughter chooses not to become a part of the "sheep-like-ones" as they put it.

You might want to check out these two pages. The first one contains many links to important information regarding the Watchtower Society.

Johannes Greber's Home Page

http://www.geocities.com/newlight_2

redhotchilipepper

Welcome Puff Candy!!!!! I'm so glad that you found this forum. It's just what you need right now. I read your story and like many others it broke my heart. To see the JW's come between family, that loving bond between a mother and child or a father and child. It truly breaks my heart. I myself have been through this at your age and I am going through it again myself. My mom and I are speaking but it is very strained. My sister and I are not speaking right now due to different beliefs/non beliefs. I have found that what has helped me is just to not spend as much time with my family. I am getting stronger spiritually, my own sense of spirituality, that is. Not the JW sense. You will be able to relate to others here on this forum, single some out if you think that may help. I have made some really good friends here. I talk to them all the time. Everyday in fact. If you ever want to talk, feel free to contact me. I'll help you in anyway I can or I'll just listen. I really feel for you sweety. Take care ok. Love Redhotchilipepper/Chris

Country_Woman

puff candy & Davin

welcome to this board.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

Quotes

Hi and welcome puff candy!!!!

Here, give your Mom some "fine spiritual food" to read:

http://quotes.watchtower.ca/

Just pick a Cateogry, and dive in. No, it won't make sense! Yes, it will be contradictory and flip-floppy and full of false-prophesy -- that's the point! When you study the Watchtower's own teachings, most people realize its all BS. My father told me my web site "confuses newly interested ones" into thinking "those JWs are all mixed up, it doesn't make any sense, they are all over the map".

Problem is, most people don't know about most of this stuff. I'm sure the WT would like to keep it that way. Thank (insert deity here) for the internet, at last people can learn "The Truth(tm)".

~Quotes, of the "avid collector" class

puff candy

Thank you all so very much!!

I have just logged on and am very touched at the welcome i have recieved from you all. I am so grateful to have found here and on reading each reply i realise just how much you all understand....you get it! I havent been able to talk about it with ANYONE who get,s it. Friends can try to understand to a point but they dont have all the information on the JW religion like all of you do so i honestly feel as though i have found somehwere truly special here.

I am still getting to find my way around the board and even reading the threads i am wide-eyed at the thought that i can relate so much with whats written. I cant wait to get stuck in to the information provided and thank you for the book rec,s too and the link which i will definately be checking out. I am looking forward to educating myself on here. I even felt a bit guilty at writing what i did but now having read the reply's i feel a whole lot better about that.

I knew that JW religion could split families but now i realise how big a problem it seems to be. I get so angry that they are told to limit time spent with non-JW family members. It,s as if we were tainted. I felt a lot better when i read that this guilt i can feel at times is really manipulation from my Mother. I have listened to her for far too long as the weaker one of the two of us and i know that joining here will help me through. You are all really lovely people. I can tell from the threads there is genuine concern. I really cant wait to get to know you all better...and you Daven as we are the new kids on the block.

I very nearly fell for the "truth" but things niggled away at me about it and i am getting my answers here....i am so happy that it,s there for me to see. I realise a lot of people on here were raised in the truth and have left and how much grief that has brought. It is truly awful! That was my main reason to question this faith.....to do that to your loved ones when they are DF,d HAS to be wrong! I could write and write to let it all flow but i am sure i will be part of many discussions around here so thank you again for being so kind and understanding about my situation. I have found some new friends already.

Also thanks for the great advice...i will keep re-reading this you know people...over and over...he he!

tata

PC, you're going enjoy here and learn a lot about the JWS. Now I see and understand how they control everybody there.

So, welcome Puff Candy!

New here, would like to say hello.

Thank you all so very much!!

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