Will You Ever Be Able To Let Go??? (page 2)

bem

Maybe not!!

It's only been three years for me and this is the first christmas to 'celebrate' since fading and I am having nightmares about the tree, lights and gifts. And getting 'caught' I hate feeling ashamed.

Dorothy

minimus

I agree. Seeking professional help might be the best way to conquer the ills one might have because of being a Jehovah's Witness.

eyeslice

No. For those of us who were lucky enough to not be too emotionally scarred, we still have family and friends in.

Eyeslice

I really don't think any of us can let it really go. We are still here talking about. And what still makes us mad. And then there are some who can't let it go because of loved ones who are still in and shun them. Moving on Yes Forgetting Probably not!

Brooke WI

Doubtfully Yours

Not for as long as we keep hanging around this website, thus being reminded constantly of what goes on at the WTBTS and how we feel/felt about it.

DY

BrendaCloutier

Have I moved on? A resounding yes! I no longer resemble a JW in any way, shape, or form.

Letting go? I've done my best. However, dreams last summer let me know that I have a deeper level of healing to do, and I ended up here (of all places - snort). And I keep coming back here.

I have learned so much about myself. I've remembered a great deal that I had forgotten. For the better, actually. I used to not think about, nor remember much of my childhood. These memories are coming back, and they're good ones.

Thank you all.

Brenda

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vitty

Bem,

I feel the same as you !

As long as I have family in, I cant let go. I so want to say goodbye to the whole horrilble experience. Well I was in , as an adult for 20 years, and I struggled for 19 years, slow learner I think so!

My husband came in 5 years after me, he told me the other day it was the only way we could stay together, cos he loved me! Please more guilt I cant take it. But I love him for it. Were stil together 25 years despite them not because of them.

One day ill tell my story, if anyone is interested

bikerchic

Let go of it? For me yes, as it doesn't define who or what I do today. Yet I must admit being a JW for most of my life shaped me into who I am today and for that I'm grateful. Yes there are parts of my personality that suffer from JWism, but I can see them now and I do work on letting go of what isn't working for me now, however I also acknowledge the good things I learned as well.

I've let go of the guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, resentment and the hate. I put it all in a little box and shipped it up to Dog, it's his now, not mine. Sometimes it revisits me when I have to deal with a relative still in the B'org, or when I read here someones story about abuse at the hands of the WTS, but then I remember my little box zooming up to Dog...........I can then deal with compassion not guilt, shame, anger, disappointment, resentment or hate.

It takes time, it takes patience and it takes practice but handing it back to Dog really helped me.

Englishman

Why should I let it go? Being a JW was a part of my life experience. I don't regret one single thing in my life. It all goes to make up me.

Englishman.

blondie

No, it would take a lobotomy, but.....

Your attachment changes, becomes less intense, or even takes on a new look.

Having been involved in alcoholic and abuse survivor support groups, I have made those changes, seen those changes. I know the same transformations are taking place within me in regard to my WTS background.

For one, the anger is gone. Reading my reviews, you might think differently but they are only intellectual exercises. I realize that we do what we can to make things better and then we have to live our own lives.

Life is something that happens when you are making other plans.

Will You Ever Be Able To Let Go???

bem