When elders approach you.....how do you/did you respond?

Blackfalcon98

So, back when you were still in, or even now (for those still in), how do you respond when the elders ask to speak with you in the back room?

sparrowdown

I'm not at meetings anymore, but there have been several unannounced home visits asking for a "chat". I just decline politely by saying

" oh, thanks for thinking of me, but that wont be necessary, maybe I could come by and have a coffee with you at your place......"

I haven't heard from that elder since then.

bafh

You can just say you are not available, running out to another obligation, and do they mind calling for an appointment. When they do, just always be busy.

NVR2L8

You tell them you know where the kingdom hall is situated and that you have their phone number if you need to talk to them. In the meantime you wish to be left alone.

goingthruthemotions

marked.......So happy for you Stuck!

joining this cult was the worse mistake of my life....if i could turn back time!

shalom

Honesty

I had served 'on the body' before and knew the tactics they use so I took a miniature digital recorder with me into the library and set it in the middle of the table on the day I met with two elders.

The Searcher

Very relevant for me and my wife!

As there will be a C.O. visit in the near future, I fully expect us to be offered our first "shepherding call", so I have prepared my answer:

"Thank you for your offer, I really appreciate your motives - but not at the moment thanks. I'll let you know if things change".

In other words, "Don't call me, I'll call you".

Pistoff

The last time they wanted to talk to me, I told them I was not prepared to talk about it at the time; after that, they lost interest and told me to never mind.

It was about giving bids on work in churches, a subject that was covered by a QFR in the early 2000's that was so vague it was worthless.

Now I would give them the 'not now, maybe another time' answer as many above have used.

When i stepped down and they wanted to have a follow up call to 'see how i was doing' i litterally laughed at the cobe and said "come on man, do you really think i need that or that im going for it...?" We stared at each other for a second and he walked away. Its all voluntary. It isnt a court of law. They have zero authority.

Just. Say. No.

ToesUp

Amen _Morpheus! That is EXACTLY what I would do. In our case, they could care less about you until you leave. Once you leave they will call you a couple of times a year, when the CO comes around. You are just a check box on their to do list. Can you feel the love?

When elders approach you.....how do you/did you respond?

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