The thing that makes me the most angry is because of it I didn't plan for my future and was never taught properly about money and work, no education, no IRA (which would be worth close to $85K now, but loses me over $350,000 when I'm 65). My ex's parents don't own a thing and they are in their mid 60's, totally dependent on their kids and own nothing. Everyone will go in debt just to put them in the ground...oh, but the end will come before that, right?It's like a big chunk of the normal social development the rest of the world got is missing. We have to play catch up constantly, but fortunately for us we were taught to learn so well, it's easy to "fake it".
I think that is the thing that cost me the most, not losing contacts, blah blah blah, but my future I could have had.
Yeah, I hear you. It makes me so depressed and angry to even think about this, I can't even think about it any more. Now I'm trying to tell myself things will get better (trading self pity for delusion maybe?)Other people I open up to about it don't seem to get it so it's not even something I can use to explain my underacheiver status to them.
I just had to face it that I had screwed it all up (with help from the parents) and I couldn't worry about that too much, but focus on what's ahead and what's possible for me now. The game's not over yet.