I plan on DAing as soon as my parents kick the bucket. They're very up there in age and with plenty of health issues.
Until then, I don't want to cause any more stress for them.
DY
Is anyone on this forum disfellowshipped?
by Kimmee 69 Replies latest jw friends
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Doubtfully Yours
That sounded awful about my folks kicking the bucket. Sorry.
I just don't see any other clean way out of this religious organization without hurting the two people I so love.
DY
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Billygoat
(((DY)))
I was DFed at 19 for CONFESSING that I slept with my worldly boyfriend. If I'd just lied or shut my trap, no one would be the wiser. But it took my DFing and experiencing their conditional love to realize this was NOT God's true earthly organization. They were a bunch of judgemental and hypocritical control freaks. I still believed they were just a bunch of quirky Christians until I came to this site and started reading Quotes site. Since then I've realized the most important thing in my life: They do NOT have The Truth?, nor are they God's earthly organization and I'm better off without them.
Andi
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Grif
I was disfellowshipped because one of the teenagers in the congregation saw me smoking a cigarette and he told his dad who was an elder. My husband was disfellowshipped at the same time....I guess it was determined that he should be disfellowshipped because of the association!
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Golden Girl
I am so sorry so many of you went through all that you did.
The WT society is a mean MF...
For those that went through such pain..I am so sorry. Someday I hope those causing the pain will be held accountable..but then they have been so brainwashed..how can we blame them.
But the brainwashing has to come from somewhere..............
I can understand the "Waiting for the parents to go" thing. That takes a big heart.
And I found out..the Brothers usually protect the most prestigious in the congregation when they are called on the carpet for wrongdoing.
Especially child molestation!
And about the smoking..when hubby had his memorial..there was a brother outside on the porch smoking when I came out.Displaying my shock..my JW MIL informed me that " He is new"..and he is trying to quit!..
And I read someone here got disfellowshipped for it?
Consistant aren't they..NOT!
Glad to be away from it all!
Snoozy...
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ESTEE
Welcome to the forum Kimmee...
Yes, I'm happily disfellowshipped. And if I wasn't disfellowshipped, I still would gone from that religion.
I outgrew my parents' religion, I guess. Started using my own mind. A thing not well accepted by the dubs.
Love
ESTEE
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franklin J
I just stopped attending meetings. No letter of disassociation. ( I refused to validate their beliefs writing them a letter)
I think the local elders would have liked to disfellowship me....but they had nothing ( despite all kinds of rumors) to disfellowship me with...
It has been more than 20 years.... The Watchtower looks very funny from this perspective.
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Incense_and_Peppermints
i left and never looked back. then i started telling everyone just how despicable they are. so i guess that makes me disassociated (sorta) and an apostate, in jw terminology.
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Mulan
I plan on DAing as soon as my parents kick the bucket. They're very up there in age and with plenty of health issues.
Until then, I don't want to cause any more stress for them.
I feel very much the same about my JW elderly mother. I don't want to hurt her anymore than she has to be hurt, and am not particulary interested in making this easy for the congregation at this time. Let them sweat it.
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jellybelly
Im not DA'd or DF'd but my partner was recently here is the link http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/82351/1.ashx
Im not sure whether to let seeping dogs lie or write a letter and say I want to have a discussion with the elders about my doubts. I could just write a letter but Id like to provide a good 'witness' to them. lol