The things that troubles me Dave is they mention a JC meeting. I would have my antenna up and wonder exactly why can't they discuss this with you with being in a JC meeting.
I never attended a JC when I left. I was disfellowshipped in absentia. I have seen how they try and put words in your mouth, how they try and trip you up. They are manipulative. They pretend that they want to help you but look out for there stradegy. Whatch and weigh you words. I am only sujesting this, do you have a mini recorder and record your meeting with them in case they say something different then what you said. It's protecting yourself. They don't need to know that you have a recording device. They may ask, but I wouldnt darn tell them that I am recording the converstation.
Whatever choice you make I hope it goes well with you. Don't take anything laying down. You have rights even if they think you don't.
Wishing you the very best.
Love Orangefatcat.