........................expressed the desire to meet for coffee or lunch, seeing as though we work so close to eachother.
I must say it was quite a surprise. This sister is older and been a dub for much longer than I ever was. She wasn't one of my close friends either, so the email had me curious while also pleasantly surprised.
I replied and we met yesterday for lunch.
She embraced me and we hugged. Then we went to a cafe and sat down to lunch. The first thing she said to me was how good I was looking. I thought that was interesting because I can always remember when I was in the borg, hearing dubs say that they saw so and so (someone out of the borg) and how bad they looked........how living a worldly life, smoking, drinking, fornicating etc, without Jehovah's protection and blessing, showed in their appearance. So I already proved to her that you can be happy, healthy and attractive out of the borg!
She then proceeded to discuss a sister who nobody in any congo where we live, likes. People just put up with her. I explained to the sister that I would never be in a situation where I would let a horrible person abuse me in any way anymore...........and that the bad sister kept being mean because people in the congregation gave her permission to be that rude to them. Being in the borg for over 25 yrs hasn't made her better, therefore where is god's spirit? We both decided to change the topic of conversation because that sister wasn't worth it.
At this point the sister leant over to me and said that she knew we had not been around (to meetings etc) and that the CO had just visited, suggesting that publishers try to encourage inactive ones.
I looked into her eyes and told her how much i appreciated her thoughtfulness and concern, but that I had very serious reasons for becoming inactive. At this point she could have changed the direction of the conversation (as many dubs have done) , we would have said our goodbyes and that would have been that. Instead she seemed keen to know. I started off gently saying I didn't want to discourage her but that what she was about to hear could have a profound effect on her, she didn't stop me. I then told her about my child being sexually abused and my unjust df'ing by a corrupt jc and 2 false witnesses. All she could do was hold her head in her hands, shaking from one side to the other. She wanted to know more, so I told her more. I explained to her that I couldn't tell people about the religion being true and good anymore, that I had seen things in the borg that were enough for me to leave, as I had left the Catholic church. And then I threw the UN scandal at her...........she went white.
As we walked back to work I told her how sorry I was if I had upset her, but that I needed for people to know the truth about my family's departure, not the lies the elders wanted people to believe, to cover it all over! I also told her I didn't want the anyone to know about the conversation we had because I would get df'ed. All she said was, "it's fine, no one will know about this. Besides, I'm ready to hear these things." We kissed and she said I would hear from her in the next couple of weeks.
So what will happen now??????????? I don't know. But I will keep you posted.
Hope you feel as happy as I do in exposing the lies and corruption of the borg.
(Oh, she also said that many had left, numbers were low)
Cheers, Bliss