Are you still "hurt" from your JW experience? (page 2)

snakeizz

Although I miss my friends, I feel content knowing that the few I had are all free from the JW lifestyle....but I feel sorry for the ones who have closed their minds....I also pity for the hypocrites...they do all they can to proclaim themselves as "Christians" or the chosen ones, but they fail to realize that the guidelines they follow so closely are the exact things that are blocking their blessings and going against what God really wants them to do......

onacruse

It is what it is, like it or not.

Believe me, I'm not trying to be flippant.

"Hurt" (emotionally speaking) is something we need to learn, within ourselves, to move beyond, like a sprained ankle or broken bone.

I can't say that one is easier than the other...just that there does come a time where we must (and do somehow!!) find a way to move beyond.

Craig

Athanasius

When I left the JWs over 20 years ago I did so voluntarily and also knowing the consequences. This made it easier for me to move on. Later most of my family also left the JWs. So I have been more fortunate than other exJWs whose family members shun them. However, I am interested in what is going on in Watch Tower land because of the remaining family members still involved in the JW cult.

bagpuss

Only one thing still hurts me about my experience.

For 8 years I gave an elderly sister lifts to all the meetings,hospital appts,doctors appts etc. I thought we were friends. At the time I stopped going to meetings I was suffering badly with depression. It wasn't a conscious decision to stop, it was health related. Not once did that sister contact me to see if I was o.k or if I needed help.After a year and a half it still hurts and makes my husband very angry,after all it was his car,diesel etc that she was taking advantage of.

The fact that no one bothered to contact me doesn't surprise me anymore,I'd always realised the lack of love in my cong was a real problem,but that one sisters failiure to contact me even once really hurts.

Dismembered

Hi JH

I'm more angry than hurt

Dismembered

steve2

At the time I stopped going to meetings I was suffering badly with depression. It wasn't a conscious decision to stop, it was health related. Not once did that sister contact me to see if I was o.k or if I needed help.

This is really sad and illustrates how, for many of us, the pain and hurt are present before we leave and not necessarily "just" consequences of leaving.

At the time when I needed help the most in my life I was still a JW, struggling with lots of stuff and not wanting to live. Where were my brothers and sisters?

For me, my healing involved reminding myself that, for good mental health, I needed to get away from the witnesses. Now, of course, I have come to realise that leaving and then taking more and more personal responsibility for my life is what a good life is all about. No more hanging out for help from people who seem unable to give it when it matters the most.

Beck_Melbourne

Hi JH

I see you are a Supreme One now - goodness gracious me, I remember when you were just a Newbie

Afterall, they were friends, and now they just don't care anymore.

Do you know what I say - "get new friends". Who needs people in our lives who don't want us.

Hugs

~Beck~

frankiespeakin

I don't know right now if I'm more hurt than thankfull. Maybe both equal I thank them for showing me the folly of letting people manipulate by personal claims,,,,this stund me to such a degree to be disfellowshiped right after my mother died,,they came after me tooth and nail by having me arrested for trespassing and disturbing a religious meetingz( I had to pay 50 fine and told to say away from that kingdom hall for 30 or 60 days it's foggy and 50 court cost which totalled 100 I think,,the attorny for the county i think in Palo Alto CA,,aound 2001 May-July ry to get it saise to 120 day but the Judge said no)

By me having to go thru that cause me to turn inward very deeply it has put me into proper postion to get enlightenment because of the deep deep pain I felt beign disfellowship from those I should love and explain the lie. cause me a severe crisis and those type of things free you to go deep.

jeanniebeanz

More angry than hurt, but it lessens with time.

J

Robert K Stock

You can't cry over spilled milk. It will take a little time but you will adjust. You will become more social, make friends and become a stronger person for the experience.

I wasted fifteen years of my life. I did not go to college. Did not date, marry or have children. I have the choice to either wallow in self pity or take control of my life. I feel sad ocasionaly, but overall I am over the hurting.

It is a cliche but true, Time heals all wounds.

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