Tough day -- my mom died today

by cruzanheart 144 Replies latest jw friends

  • Badger
    Badger

    ((((((((((((nina))))))))))))))))

    I'm very sorry to hear that. This has really been a tough week for a lot of us.

    I know Chris is there and helping all he can, but you can call if you need to talk...

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Thank you all! I'm doing okay today. We're still waiting to hear when Mom's remains will be ready for the funeral -- I'm thinking Monday or Tuesday. The kids seem to be handling it well but she has been out of it for so long. Jennie visited with me every weekend (unless someone was sick -- I really tried not to carry any germs into that nursing home), and we had serious talks about Mom's condition. We tried to prepare both of them for her inevitable death.

    Odd thing: when I was 6 years old and my grandmother died, my parents had me view her body, lying in her bed, and it really freaked me out for years afterward. I couldn't look at a dead body without feeling literally faint and ill and extremely scared. I couldn't even sit through the scene in "Gone With The Wind" where Scarlett sees her dead mother laid out in the parlor. But somehow it was okay being there with Mom. I stayed with her for about three hours, waiting for the people from the funeral home to come, and it felt like the right thing to do. Even though I knew she wasn't there, it was one last thing that I could do for her -- just be there and remember her as she was.

    She was fun, irritating, demanding, needy, smart, funny, mean, controlling -- I could tell stories on each of those qualities! I think I liked her best when she'd had a couple of drinks because then she let her guard down and was just plain fun. At those times she didn't worry about money, or the proper thing to do, or what Jehovah would think -- she'd get up and dance with the Greek dancers at the restaurant, or show me a few tap dance moves that she picked up hanging out with the theater crowd in New York City.

    Hope she's dancing now!

    Nina

  • onacruse
    onacruse

    Nina, if you don't mind my being so bold as to ask:

    Will you please post the obituary for your mother?

    Imvho, it would honor her, and honor us, your friends, to see the feelings for her that you and Chris and the grandkids and the rest of the family have to offer.

    Please forgive me if I'm outside my bounds in this request.

    "There is more benefit in visiting the house of mourning, than the house of rejoicing."

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    Nina, I'm sorry about your mother.

    The service you've planned sounds lovely. It's exactly how I'd want mine to be, small, short and personal. The ouzo is a great touch. Maybe if she's having a hard time wherever she is, it'll loosen her up so she can dance.

    Love to you and your family.

    Odrade

  • Simon
    Simon

    ((( Nina )))

  • Jesika
    Jesika

    Nina and Chris..............

    I am so sorry about your loss.........I knew your mom........I have a little memory of her.......my memories of those times are real fuzzy for me.

    I will call you guys in a few days to talk to you.........give you all ( kids included) a great big hug from me.

    Love,

    Jes

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex
    Please forgive me if I'm outside my bounds in this request.

    I think I speak for Nina when I say of course you're not! She wrote out the obituary yesterday and submitted it to the newspaper, and I'll ask her if she wants to post it here. I'm sure she will.

    Chris

  • TresHappy
    TresHappy

    Nina, I read your mom's obituary in the Dallas newspaper. What a wonderful tribute to your Mom!

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex

    http://www.legacy.com/dallasmorningnews/LegacySubPage2.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonId=3221740

    Katherine Giannacopoulos Bibbee
    BIBBEE, KATHERINE GIANNACOPOULOS BIBBEE died on 2/24/05. The daughter of Greek immigrants, she was born in Richmond, VA on 8/26/17, married William C. Bibbee (d. 2003) on 8/14/48 and traveled the world with him and their daughter, settling in Texas in 1973. Katherine will be remembered for her ascerbic wit, dynamic personality, and near-Nascar driving ability. She leaves behind her daughter Christina Scott, son-in-law Christopher Scott, grandchildren Jennifer and Jackson Scott, who loved her dearly; also her brother George Janis, sisters-in-law Domna Janis and Mona Janise, nieces Jane Janise and Cathy Teske, nephews Tom Janise, Jim Janis and Philip Janis. A private memorial service is planned.
    Published in the Dallas Morning News on 2/27/2005.
  • seeitallclearlynow
    seeitallclearlynow

    I'm sorry you've lost your mother Nina...life is so short and unpredictable...but I'm very sure you were a wonderful daughter to her always.

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