LittleToe,
You make a valid point about soaps. I once banned them in our house because they were causing my wife to get depressed. I could tell with absolute certainty when she'd been watching them for a few weeks.
How do you ban your wife from doing something? If I tried that with my wife she would play soccer with my head, after she had stir-fried my brain of course.
Bear in mind we have been married sixteen years and she informs me that we are a very happy together.
Best regards - HS