Run In With Ex-Father-In-Law (Elder/PO) (page 2)

whyamihere

All I can say is that I fell bad that you have to go through this. I hope your daughter sees the shit you have to put up with. Although I feel bad that she has to see this.

Brooke

adelmaal

Thanks you all. I appreciate your comments.

My daughter is 10 and the whole situation stressed her out. I did tell her to get her shoes on and get her backpack and that she was going home with me. She was a bit thrown off guard and I think she felt caught in the middle. When she went into the other room to get her shoes on her gradfather followed her. Who knows what he said to her.

While I was waiting her aunt asked, "You didn't know she went to detention?"

I responded, "No, I called and asked him if she'd gone to detention and he refused to answer my question. I am not comfortable with someone taking care of my child if he is unwilling to communicate with me about her care. That is why I am taking her home."

I then asked her aunt and uncle when her grandma would be home. They said they were picking her up at the airport that evening. I then decided I would leave her there so as not to cause more drama than necessary. I told them that she could stay so long as her grandma was coming home because I knew she would communicate with me regarding her care.

Then when my daughter came out I let her know her grandma would be home and I was comfortable with her staying. I then left.

adelmaal

I feel like my daughter must think I'm a complete b!tc$. I don't think she understood the whole situation and it just looked like I was overreacting and her grandpa was being all sweet and saying sorry to her (yuck!). It makes me sick... I'm sure she got an earful after I left.

I am going to force the issue with her dad when he returns but I don't think it will get me anywhere. First, I left a message on his voice mail in the thick of things and I must have sounded like a screaming meme. Second, he lives with his dad, he works for his dad and he will soon be appointed an elder by none other than his dad.

adelmaal

jeanniebeanz

Talk to your attorney, now. This is unacceptable. I'd have brought a cop with me and told them that the grandparents were blocking access to my child and I did not know what I would be facing when going to their house. I'd also alert Social Services that my ex had left my daughter in the care of people who refused to relay important information to the parent. Additionally, I'd make sure that the school knows to send me notices of any missed detention, and give them my cell. They should call you as well as your ex over any diciplinary actions, and I'd make sure that they know you are watching them like a hawk. Does a copy of her report card go to you as well as the ex, and are you both called to teacher conferences?

You think *you* over reacted?

I do *not* play softball when dealing with issues like these.

J

( of the rampaging momma bear class)

BrendaCloutier

Beyond his abominable treatment of you, how dare he not be concerned with his granddaughter's care and responsibilities?! He is a childish ass. I think this is an important issue to be worked out with your ex husband that the grandparents are not to be guardians if he is out of town, since they fail miserably to communicate in an adult manner with the child's interest at heart.

simplesally

Overreact? No way!!!!!!

I would have removed her ASAP, even if Grandma was coming home. What would you have done if your daughter had some accident before Grandma came home? Or what if Grandma didn't come home as planned for some unseen occurance?

Document. Document. Document.

Attorney, Social Services, all of them. This week.

orangefatcat

Yes I would indeed contact my attorney asap, and then give your ex a piece of your mind. As for the self-righteous grandfather I would have given him something to think about, and he has no right to try and upbring your daughter. It was the father's fault too as he should have told you he was going to be away. What a bunch of dweebs. Sorry about that, but it just makes me so mad when elders think they have control of everyones life.

Will justice ever prevail??

Well I hope things work out for you. Maybe you should suggest to your daughter how important it is that she always makes herself available to speak with mommy under all circumstances. IMHO>

Orangefatcat.

the_classicist

I rather like "grandass," the name that is (good thing there's editing). Now what needs to be done reminds me of a situation on the Simpsons when Mr. Burns visits the Mayo Clinic. He was thus filling out his forms:

Cause of parents' death: Got in my way.

Dragonlady76

The blood is boiling as we speak! What ignorant jerk!

I would have called the police and removed her immediately regardless of who's comming. I think that's it's very important for you to sit down and talk to your daughter and explain what happened. She needs to know now that her fathers family treats you like this and the reason why. Giving the dad an earful will get you no where, he is obviously under his daddy's thumb.

Dragonlady76

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